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Alice in Wonderland Young Women in the Working World
Talk delivered to Sixth Form Schoolgirls (Senior High) by Habiba Balogun
on 14th January, 2014
Alice in Wonderland Young Women in the Working World
When did you realise that you were a girl?
Growing up, what was your image of a ‘good’ woman and a ‘good man’? – throw out some adjectives/attributes.
How many of the female attributes is a university admissions officer or an employer looking for?
About me….The Schoolgirl
• Big family • Space Cadet / Bookworm • Friendly and easygoing • Loyal friend • Kent College Pembury • Part of the Out-group / In-group • LOVED dancing • Average at school work • Scared of failing my A Levels
• Not sure what career, what degree.
• Studied my favourite subject • Chose Royal Holloway because I
liked the building - Pink Chateau • Scared of failing my degree • LOVED living abroad • After Uni - No more pocket
money!! • The Workplace??? No Idea!!
About me…..The Woman Directorships & Boards • Habiba Balogun Consulting –
Organisation Effectiveness and HR Consultancy for multinationals
• Accion Microfinance Bank • Lagos Preparatory School • Fate Foundation - entrepreneurship • KIND (Kudirat Initiative for Democracy)
WISCAR (Women in Successful Careers) – Structured mentoring programme
• Success4All Ltd – Financial literacy
Multi-lingual Lived and worked worldwide A fellow of the Aspen Leadership
Network and the Africa Leadership Initiative.
A certified coach, trainer & facilitator
A columnist and public speaker Active in charities, NGOs &
causes such as #BringBackOurGirls
Alice in Wonderland Young Women in the Working World
What does it mean to be an ‘Alice in Wonderland’ ? What makes the workplace a ‘Wonderland’? – how are
they similar? Were there rules in Wonderland? Did Alice know the rules? How did she learn them? Will you know the rules of the workplace by the time you
get there? How will you discover them?
Alice in Wonderland Young Women in the Working World
Alice faced a crossroads in Wonderland and had to decide which way to go.
What are the choices that you might have to make in your life and career? • Immediate choices tomorrow • Choices after School • Choices when entering the workplace • Choices during your career
”If you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there.” Lewis Carroll
Young boys are taught to plan for WHAT they will
achieve in life; young women are taught to
plan for WHOM they will attain.
This does not prepare us to set goals for our lives &
careers Set your goals!
Navigating Wonderland Women, The Triple burden and the Double bind The Triple Burden:
The Double bind: Extreme Perceptions: Damned if you do, damned if you don’t
• Woman, Worker, Welfare Officer
• Housekeeper, Earner, Caregiver
• Marriage, Maternity Leave, Childcare
Too SOFT or too ASSERTIVE
Too GIRLY or too MANLY
Too FRIENDLY or too HOSTILE
Too THIN or too FAT
Everyday Sexism – a must read After experiencing a series of escalating
sexist incidents …from being harassed and
wolf-whistled at on the street, to
discrimination in the workplace and serious
sexual assault, it was clear that sexism had
become normalised…..a manifesto for
change; a ground breaking, anecdotal
examination of sexism in modern day
society
1. What’s the worst that can happen? !
2. How likely is that to happen? !
3. Can I deal with it?!
#2 � Ask yourself 3 questions
#3 �Take two pieces of paper and
write down your options on each. Put them in a bowl, close your
eyes, and pick one.!
If you feel disappointed with the
outcome, then you know that is the
wrong choice for you to make! �
Use decision-making methods
False Expectations Appearing Real
False Emotions Appearing Real
False Evidence Appearing Real
Forgetting Everything is All Right
Future Events Appearing Real
Poor Personal Decisions are the Leading Cause of Premature Death
In 1900 only 10% of premature deaths were due to
personal decisions
In 2008, it was up to 44.5%
Smoking . Not exercising Drug & Alcohol abuse
Unsafe sex . Criminality Unhealthy Food
Source: Operations Research Ralph Keeney 2008
#6 � Stop KILLING yourself!
1. Is it IMPORTANT to me?
2. Is this what I WANT?
3. Does this MAKE ME HAPPY / happier?
4. Can I live with myself after this?
4 Important Questions
#7 � At each Crossroad, ask yourself
EVADING • Recourse to someone or something else
e.g. religion, horoscopes • Shift responsibility – e.g. parent/friend • Toe the line – follow others • Decide as a group (no person to blame) • The Ostrich – don’t think about it • Pray for a miracle / False Hopes POOR CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS • False alternative • Failure to Reflect
SELF-SABOTAGE • Be overconfident • Be too prudent • Succumb to failure • Misrepresentation of facts • Reasoning by analogy • Purely symbolic decisions • Post-decision anxiety / Have
second thoughts
Source: Leadership Decision Making – Professor Hossein Arsham
#8 � Stop Avoiding making Serious Decisions
When you are: Angry or Hurt Sleep deprived Depressed or Deeply Sad Desperate Frightened or Grieving Jealous / Envious Being persuaded/pressured To get… Revenge Harm someone else
DON’T DO When you are: – Calm – Thoughtful – Focused – Informed
• Find a way to perceive your problem as an opportunity
• Use decision-making tools - Decision trees - 10-10-10 - Cost/Benefit, Pros/Cons - Grid Analysis
#9 � Choose the Right Time to Decide
1. Set clear goals. What do you want to accomplish? and how it relates to your priorities
2. Identify the Options/Actions. Consider a wide range of possible alternative courses of action and gather information on them
3. Evaluate the Consequences. Weigh the costs & risks of possible negative and positive consequences. Especially the worst case scenario
5. Re-assess the Action. Re-examine positive and negative consequences including some previously unacceptable choices before making a final decision
6. Implement your decision. Make DETAILED arrangements for implementing and executing your choice including back up plans and flexibility to adjust
#10 � Set goals & have a plan
Become the Queen in Wonderland Know yourself • What you are good at – STRENGTHS • What you know how to do both in and
out of school - SKILLS • How well you get on with others –
INTERPERSONAL • What you love doing and want to do
more of – PASSIONS & MOTIVATIONS
• What you want people to think of you – YOUR IMAGE
• What you need to watch out for - WEAKNESSES
Educate yourself • What is going on in my world and
in the wider world • How to manage money well • How to keep yourself healthy • How to keep yourself safe • How to do things better & faster • How to analyse & persuade • How to be a team player • How to lead, and how to follow
References
Alice in Wonderland – Lewis Carroll Catalyst.com – The Double-bind Dilemma for Women in Leadership Leadership Decision Making – Professor Hossein Arsham Operations Research Ralph Keeney 2008 Women in the Workplace Research Roundup - Harvard Business
Review 09/2013 Everyday Sexism – Laura Bates TinyBuddha.com Hbalogunconsult.com