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YOUR WEAKNESSES DON’T LIE Others Know Them. Why Don’t You? Identifying Strengths & Weaknesses Taking Steps To Improve HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS A Venture of BARBUSH ENTERPRISES James Eugene Barbush Professional Engineer, Speaker, & Writer in Leadership Development March 12-14, 2013 Baltimore Convention Center 1 Session No R2.21 Thurs. March 14, 2013 10:00 am to 10:50 am

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YOUR WEAKNESSES DON’T LIE Others Know Them. Why Don’t You? Identifying Strengths & Weaknesses. Taking Steps To Improve. We mostly think positively about ourselves, viewing, working in, and promoting our strengths. Leadership teachers rightly tell us to play to our strengths because strengths involve our passions, what we do well. But does anyone tell us to “focus” on our weaknesses? When leading in challenging situations, we may identify symptoms of our strengths/weaknesses based on our behaviors or results of our behaviors that surface and reactions from others. hen we identify those things, we should -Capitalize on strengths -Recognize symptoms of weaknesses -Determine weaknesses -Make necessary changes in ourselves and what we do. This session will delve into -Identifying strengths/weaknesses -Taking steps to improve further on what we do well -Making changes where necessary.

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YOUR WEAKNESSES DON’T LIE Others Know Them.

Why Don’t You? Identifying Strengths & Weaknesses

Taking Steps To Improve

HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

A Venture of BARBUSH ENTERPRISES James Eugene Barbush

Professional Engineer, Speaker, & Writer

in Leadership Development

March 12-14, 2013

Baltimore Convention Center

1 Session No R2.21 Thurs. March 14, 2013 10:00 am to 10:50 am

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HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

A Venture of BARBUSH ENTERPRISES James Eugene Barbush

Professional Engineer, Speaker, & Writer

in Leadership Development

March 12-14, 2013

Baltimore Convention Center

2 Session No R2.21 March 14, 2013 10:00 am to 10:50 am

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We mostly think positively about ourselves,

viewing, working in, and promoting our strengths.

Leadership teachers rightly tell us to play to our strengths because

strengths involve our passions, what we do well.

But does anyone tell us to “focus” on our weaknesses?

When leading in challenging situations, we may identify symptoms of our

strengths/weaknesses based on our behaviors or results of our behaviors that

surface and reactions from others.

When we identify those things, we should

Capitalize on strengths

Recognize symptoms of weaknesses

Determine weaknesses

Make necessary changes in ourselves and what we do.

This session will delve into

Identifying strengths/weaknesses

Taking steps to improve further on what we do well

Making changes where necessary.

YOUR WEAKNESSES DON’T LIE Others Know Them.

Why Don’t You? ABSTRACT

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LEARNING OBJECTIVES

1) IDENTIFY YOUR SYMPTOMS OF WEAKNESSES It’s dangerous to ignore them

2) DETERMINE WEAKNESSES (?) Turn to strengths

3) IDENTIFY YOUR STRENGTHS They reveal your hidden weaknesses

4) MAKE NEEDED CHANGES Or your flaws can be fatal

5) RESOURCES FOR HELP Getting you where you need to be

YOUR WEAKNESSES DON’T LIE Others Know Them.

Why Don’t You?

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OUTLINE

1. INTRODUCTION 2. STRENGTHS & WEAKNESSES 3. SYMPTOMS 4. THE FATAL FLAW 5. EXAMPLES 6. WHAT’s THE CORE PROBLEM 7. WHAT TO DO 8. CHANGE MANAGEMENT or DISASTER MANAGEMENT 9. APPENDIX: Report of Harrisburg Biz Leaders

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INTRODUCTION

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NFMT IS FROM

AROUND THE WORLD?

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STRENGTHS &

WEAKNESSES

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MY STAIRWAY TO DISCOVERY and DESTINY

DESTINY

SUCCESS

ADVENTURE LEADING

SPEAKING

WRITING

READING

CATCH MY WAVE

THIS IS BASED ON STRENGTHS

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STRENGTHS & WEAKNESSES VIDEO

“How To Build On Your Strengths” MARCUS BUCKINGHAM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJ5t8g3MCyk

“Building Strengths or Fixing Weaknesses”

JACK ZENGER http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yScEAL1yxks

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SYMPTOMS

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SYMPTOM

WEAKNESS SYMPTOM

SYMPTOM

SYMPTOM

SYMPTOM

SYMPTOM

SYMPTOM

SYMPTOMS of WHAT?

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RECOGNIZING WEAKNESSES “How to Overcome a Weakness”, By C J Carter,

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Overcome-a-Weakness&id=656256

In the opening of the article, C J Carter states:

“All people like to view themselves in a positive light. No one likes to be considered a failure or a lesser human being. But everyone has weaknesses. Most of the time

people tend to ignore their weakness and focus on showcasing their positive attributes.

There’s nothing wrong with showing your positive attributes but you can't ignore your weaknesses. When people ignore the things that they are bad at,

it tends to come back on them later in life. I agree. Do you?

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RECOGNIZING WEAKNESSES “How to Overcome a Weakness”, By C J Carter,

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Overcome-a-Weakness&id=656256

Do we recognize our weaknesses Or

Can we be blind to certain weaknesses? HERE ARE CHOICES THAT WE MIGHT MAKE:

IGNORE IT We do not even consider how we are doing.

We just plow on through leaving a wake of damage. WRONG PERCEPTION We think we are doing right

We truly do not know HELPLESS We know we are weak in an area

We have not figured out how to change

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RECOGNIZING WEAKNESSES

“How to Overcome a Weakness”, By C J Carter, http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Overcome-a-Weakness&id=656256

Can we self-diagnose the weaknesses in ourselves?

What is a better way to reveal a weakness and discover the full impact of that weakness:

an accountability partner –

Someone who knows us,

someone who we trust,

someone who is familiar with what we are doing,

someone who can critique us properly, and

someone who we can accept proper criticism from.

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THE FATAL FLAW

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THE FATAL FLAW Reference Blog Article Attached:

“The Fatal Flaw - The Most Essential Element for Bringing Characters to Life” By Dara Marks

http://www.writersstore.com/the-fatal-flaw-the-most-essential-element-for-bringing-characters-to-life

I remember “way back in high school literature” (and that is way back), we were taught about the “fatal flaw” in a character in a story.

As defined by Dara Marks in the attached article,

“The FATAL FLAW is a struggle within a character to maintain a survival system

long after it has outlived its usefulness.

What that makes me think is that we can operate with a weakness, not recognize it, and not do anything about it, then eventually we are not going to survive in what we are doing because the way we are doing it is deficient and that way will outlive its usefulness. Thus, the weakness becomes fatal to what we are doing.

If that is possible, then we must address our weaknesses, our weaknesses, not others weaknesses.

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EXAMPLES

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FATIGUE

WEAKNESS

?

AFFECTED

SOCIAL

LIFE

SYMPTOM

UNABLE TO

WORK

EFFECTIVELY

IRRATABILITY

EXAMPLE – A HEALTH ISSUE

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SYMPTOMS FATIGUE IRRATABILITY INABILITY TO WORK EFFICIENTLY AFFECTED SOCIAL LIFE

CAUSE LACK OF SLEEP? STRESS? LOW T? LACK OF EXERCISE?

COUNSEL DOCTOR SLEEP STUDY

CAUSE DETERMINED THE WEAKNESS SLEEP APNEA

THE FIX How Is Sleep Apnea Treated? Lifestyle Changes Mouthpieces Breathing Devices CPAP (Continuous Positive Airway Pressure) Surgery

EXAMPLE - A HEALTH ISSUE

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WEAKNESS

?

SYMPTOM

EXAMPLE – A MANAGER

IRRATIBLE MESSY

OFFICE

MANY

PROJECTS

WORK

UNDONE

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SYMPTOMS CLUTTERED OFFICE INCOMPLETE WORK MANY PROJECTS

CAUSE TOO MUCH WORK? NOT ENOUGH TIME? NOT ENOUGH EMPLOYEES? UNTRAINED STAFF?

COUNSEL SUPERVISOR EXECUTIVE MANAGEMENT PROFESSIONAL ASSOCIATION

CAUSE DETERMINED NOT FOCUSING

THE FIX

EXAMPLE – A FACILITIES MANAGER

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WHAT’s THE CORE PROBLEM

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WHAT IS THE CORE PROBLEM?

ENTREPRENEUR DEVELOPMENT GROUP

“What is the CORE PROBLEM?”

I CAN’T FIX SYMPTOMS

Something deeper causes symptoms

What lines beneath?

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WHAT IS THE CORE PROBLEM?

Lisa Heintzelman, Illuminations Consulting,

I focus on MAXIMIZING THE POTENTIAL

of individuals, teams, & organizations.

STRENGTHS rather than weaknesses With a focus on “development”

Helping people use skills they already have effectively

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EXAMPLE

I CAN’T DO SALES but I AM “CONSULTATIVE”

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WHAT TO DO

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ADMIT

READ

MENTORSHIP – INDIVIDUAL & GROUP

ASK – HOW AM I DOING?

LOOK AROUND & SEE SYMPTOMS

EVALUATE

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WHAT TO DO

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“Success in Life How to Overcome Your Weaknesses”

By Jason Osborn http://ezinearticles.com/?Success-in-Life---How-to-Overcome-Your-Weaknesses&id=575209

In your journey to success

you will encounter weaknesses in your life, if you don't deal with them, will hinder or stop you altogether from reaching success.

Having weaknesses isn't really the big deal because we all have them. if you don't overcome those weaknesses, that's where you are in trouble.

Here are 3 keys you can use to overcome your weaknesses. 1. Learn how to improve it. 2. Surround yourself with people's strength. 3. Learn from others.

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CHANGE MANAGEMENT OR

DISASTER MANAGEMENT

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IT’s YOUR CHOICE:

DISASTER MANAGEMENT …..... or …… CHANGE MANAGEMENT

IT IS going to be

ONE or THE OTHER .

.

Here’s the revelation that came out of the

Roundtable Discussion of

Harrisburg Biz Leaders, Friday, October 12, 2012

.

With the recognition that there is something amiss in what is

happening around you, and

if you have the authority to resolve it,

then you must accept the responsibility

to take action to get it resolved.

.

Sounds simple enough…..or is it?

.

Is there more there than meets “the eye“?

.

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IT’s YOUR CHOICE:

CHANGE MANAGEMENT …....... or ………. DISASTER MANAGEMENT

IT IS

going to be

ONE or THE OTHER

.

4 characters you can choose for your response (or not) to issues that exist:

The Blind. Can you see the issue and do you know it’s a problem?

Surely others around you might see it.

The Deaf. Have others told you about something they think is a problem or

could be improved, and for various reasons, you do not act on or

respond to their input? Maybe you decided that the issue need not

be addressed. You may be right, or wrong. Are you confident with

your decision?

The Timid. Do you see the issue but are not addressing it?

Are you ignoring it? Others may be wishing you would address it.

The Responsible. Have you decided that the issue must be addressed, and you

are will to accept responsibility to take active and make plans

for changes. You might not know how to go about it. Even if you

do, a good policy would be to get another “set of eye” to help you

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IT’s YOUR CHOICE:

DISASTER MANAGEMENT …....... or ………. CHANGE MANAGEMENT

IT IS going to be

ONE or THE OTHER

So, of the 4 characters above,

The Blind, The Deaf, The Timid, or The Responsible,

“what are you good at doing”

when you sense something is wrong.

It might be a minor item or a major one. You sense something is not quite right

and you just have not put your finger on it. You either don’t take the time to

assess what’s happening or you know what’s happening and you just don’t want

to face it. Or, maybe you know what’s wrong and need some help to get it

resolved.

Pick one of the above characters, and determine to enter some form of

Change Management before you must enter Disaster Management. .

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THE END

See Appendix for

More Information

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OFFICE: 2021 BLUE MOUNTAIN PARKWAY HARRISBURG, PA 17112 717-514-5549 [email protected]

James Eugene Barbush

The Business Look

The Catch A Wave Look

THANK YOU

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Success Facilitator

Leadership Developer

Speaker

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James Eugene Barbush of Barbush Enterprises is a Professional Engineer with 40

years of professional experience. He has had a balanced Civil Engineering career with

private and public sector experience, majoring in contract administration, dispute resolution,

legislative interpretation, staff training, multiple aspects of design, construction, and

management, and working with all levels of staff and management.

James retired in August 2010 and launched Barbush Enterprises that includes (1)

Professional Speaking and Writing on Leadership Topics, (2) Business Development for

A/E firms, and (3) Use of Social Media venues to broadcast his messages.

In September 2011, James founded and launched Harrisburg Biz Leaders, a

roundtable forum for biz leaders to further develop their leadership skills, to share their

leadership skills with others, and to network for their biz. Harrisburg Biz Leaders is

operated out of a state-of-the-art Social Media Platform called a Social Hub Site

(http://bizleaders.socialhubsite.com)

James has presented on leadership topics at NFMT Baltimore annually since 2007,

with 2013 being his 7th successful presentation at NFMT.

HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

A Venture of

BARBUSH ENTERPRISES

James Eugene Barbush Professional Engineer, Speaker, & Writer

in Leadership Development

SPEAKER

BIO

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James Eugene Barbush

You can find me on-line at:

Social Hub Site for “Harrisburg Biz Leaders”: http://bizleaders.socialhubsite.com/ Social Hub Site for “G42-The 42nd Generation”: http://g42the42ndgeneration.socialhubsite.com/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/JamesEBarbush Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/jamesebarbush E-Mail: [email protected] 36

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OUR MOTTO is “Building Leaders for Today's Success"

OUR OBJECTIVE is “Building People Into Leaders They Are Destined To Be”

OUR OFFERINGS are “Guaranteed to

INSPIRE Leaders, Management, and Project Teams,

and thus

MOTIVATE Them in Ways to Boost Their Proven SUCCESS”

The Focus

of

BARBUSH ENTERPRISES

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HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

A Venture of BARBUSH ENTERPRISES James Eugene Barbush

Professional Engineer, Speaker, & Writer

in Leadership Development

March 12-14, 2013

Baltimore Convention Center

38 Session No R2.21 March 14, 2013 10:00 am to 10:50 am

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APPENDIX This Appendix is supporting information and is

not part of the 50 minute session.

It is provided to give the viewer sufficient information that the powerpoint slides do not

show.

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REPORT OF HBL SESSIONS April 26 and May 11, 2012

“Identify

Strengths and Weaknesses….

and

Make Needed Changes”

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YouTube Channel by JamesEBarbush

Playlist: 0 LEADERSHIP – Crossroads

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL654BC96ED6

C121FE&feature=view_all

This YouTube playlist has numerous videos on leadership

that are viewed at HBL Sessions, both inspirational and

educational.

“Building Strengths or Fixing Weaknesses”

Jack Zenger

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yScEAL1yxks

“How To Build On Your Strengths”

Marcus Buckingham

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJ5t8g3MCyk

VIDEOS REPORT OF HBL SESSIONS

April 26 and May 11, 2012

“Identify Strengths and Weaknesses….

and Make Needed Changes”

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How to Overcome a Weakness

By C J Carter http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Overcome-a-Weakness&id=656256

Success in Life: How to Overcome Your Weaknesses

By Jason Osborn http://ezinearticles.com/?Success-in-Life---How-to-Overcome-Your-Weaknesses&id=575209

The Fatal Flaw: The Most Essential Element for Bringing Characters to Life

By Dara Marks http://www.writersstore.com/the-fatal-flaw-the-most-essential-element-for-bringing-characters-to-life

What Can You Do With A Noxious Boss? Bу:Jobs Collector http://www.jobscollector.com/what-can-you-do-with-a-noxious-boss.html?goback=%2Egde_76367_member_110054160

8 Core Beliefs of Extraordinary Bosses Sales Source newsletter http://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/8-core-beliefs-of-extraordinary-bosses.html

Blog Articles REPORT OF HBL SESSIONS

April 26 and May 11, 2012

“Identify Strengths and Weaknesses….

and Make Needed Changes”

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STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES

In the book “First, Break All the Rules: What the World's Greatest Managers Do Differently”, Marcus Buckingham teaches that in leading other we should play to their strengths and not focus on their weaknesses. He makes a good case for that and I largely agree with him.

An important distinction is that Buckingham is telling us how to lead OTHERS. The focus is their strengths, not their weaknesses. Find out where people are strong and put them in situations that fit them in their strengths. Do not expect them to operate well in situations where they are weak.

The focus of this discussion is not how we lead others in THEIR strengths, and not how we lead in OUR strengths, but what do we do about OUR weaknesses. We have strengths…..and weaknesses. 43

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STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES

ISN’T IT EASY for us to recognize what we think are weaknesses in others?

IS IT EASY to recognize our own weaknesses?

Maybe not.

We might not even recognize our weaknesses, and thus not do anything about fixing or making provisions to overcome them.

WHAT HAPPENS IF We do not recognize our own weaknesses and address them to make some changes in how we lead?

WHAT HAPPENS IS We affect others adversely. We affect our followers and those around us adversely because we are leading out of our strengths as well as out of our weaknesses.

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STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES

I am not going to advocate that we must be able to identify and fix all our weaknesses. Maybe we can’t.

If we cannot identify and fix our weaknesses, we need to find someone to assess the symptoms that result from our weakness.

If we know where we are weak, we can delegate certain responsibilities if we are not suited to doing them.

This is a big topic that cannot be fully discussed in a brief presentation. Surely, there is “a book” to be written about this.

My purpose here is to point to some high points using two recent sessions conducted by Harrisburg Biz Leaders on this topic. 45

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CONCEPTS DISCOVERED

BY

PARTICIPANTS

OF

HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

1 Awareness 2 Cause or Symptom 3 Check-Up 4 Criticism 5 Evaluation 6 Get Help 7 Identify 8 Knowing Self 9 Listen 10 No Condemnation 11 Passion 12 Perception 13 Perseverance 14 Recognize 15 Reversal 16 Strength = Weakness 17 Teams 18 Vision 46

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CONCEPTS DISCOVERED BY PARTICIPANTS OF HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

1. Awareness We can be aware of a weakness and thus act appropriately in a given situation to avoid adverse affects in a

situation. Thus, we control ourselves in a way so that our weakness is not controlling us. 2. Cause or Symptom Get to the root of the problem (the weakness) and do not focus on symptoms. A cracked wall could be caused

by a cracked foundation. Therefore, patching the crack does not fix the problem. 3. Check-Up As we do physically to get a medical check-up, we should also have a check-up on our leadership skills. Consider

your business to be like a human body. What is the brain (knowledge base)? What is the heart (people, passion)? What are the legs (foundation)? And so on. There is a study waiting to be done on this concept.

4. Criticism We must be able to take constructive criticism. Leave your ego at the door. Identify what the challenges are, aim at continual improvement, determine where you want to be.

5. Evaluation In working with weaknesses, we should be in a positive and safe environment. Example: Toastmasters knows how to excellently critique speakers showing what is being done well, and make suggestions for improvements. It’s a win-win critique.

6. Get Help Get someone stronger than you are. Personal and professional. 7. Identify Look at results and ask why they are happening. 8. Knowing Self Part of recognizing our weaknesses comes with “knowing ourselves”, knowing what we can and cannot do well. 9. Listen Listen to others and connect with them. 10. No Condemnation Don’t beat yourself up for a weakness. Recognize that we all have weaknesses and we all need to make

improvements. Seek advice and help when weaknesses are difficult to overcome (accountability partner, books, videos, other inspiration).

11. Passion If you are passionate about what you are doing, then we can be passionate about fixing our weaknesses. It’s connected to the accomplishment of your vision.

12. Perception Is perception is reality? How others perceive you might not be what you intend to project. Ask for feedback that helps you and others, and creates more trust.

13. Perseverance There will always be some obstacle on the way. That makes for a great journey, a great experience 14 Recognize We should maximize our strengths and identify areas for continual improvement. If we recognize and deal with

our 15. Reversal Turning the negative to the positive 16. Strength = Weakness Strengths and weaknesses are not mutually exclusive. A greatest strength could be our greatest weakness.

Example: We operate with energy and passion. There are times when active energy and passion is appropriate and there are times when inactivity and quietness appropriate. Choose wisely.

17. Teams Identify and document weaknesses of a team or system. 18. Vision Review your vision and ask how weaknesses get in the way of the accomplishment of your mission and vision.

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CONCEPTS DISCOVERED

BY PARTICIPANTS OF HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

1. Awareness We can be aware of a weakness and thus act appropriately in a

given situation to avoid adverse affects in a situation. Thus, we

control ourselves in a way so that our weakness is not controlling us.

2. Cause or Symptom Get to the root of the problem (the weakness) and do not focus on

symptoms. A cracked wall could be caused by a cracked

foundation. Therefore, patching the crack does not fix the problem.

3. Check-Up As we do physically to get a medical check-up, we should also have

a check-up on our leadership skills. Consider your business to be

like a human body. What is the brain (knowledge base)? What is

the heart (people, passion)? What are the legs (foundation)? And

so on. There is a study waiting to be done on this concept.

4. Criticism We must be able to take constructive criticism. Leave your ego at

the door. Identify what the challenges are, aim at continual

improvement, determine where you want to be.

5. Evaluation In working with weaknesses, we should be in a positive and safe

environment. Example: Toastmasters knows how to excellently

critique speakers showing what is being done well, and make

suggestions for improvements. It’s a win-win critique.

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CONCEPTS DISCOVERED BY ATTENDEES HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

7. Identify Look at results and ask why they are happening.

8. Knowing Self Part of recognizing our weaknesses comes with “knowing ourselves”, knowing what we can and cannot do well.

9. Listen Listen to others and connect with them.

10. No Condemnation Don’t beat yourself up for a weakness. Recognize that we all have weaknesses and we all need to make improvements. Seek advice and help when weaknesses are difficult to overcome (accountability partner, books, videos, other inspiration).

11. Passion If you are passionate about what you are doing, then we can be passionate about fixing our weaknesses. It’s connected to the accomplishment of your vision.

12. Perception Is perception is reality? How others perceive you might not be what you intend to project. Ask for feedback that helps you and others, and creates more trust.

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CONCEPTS DISCOVERED BY ATTENDEES HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

13. Perseverance There will always be some obstacle on the way.

That makes for a great journey, a great experience

14 Recognize We should maximize our strengths and identify areas

for continual improvement. If we recognize and deal

with our

15. Reversal Turning the negative to the positive

16. Strength = Weakness Strengths and weaknesses are not mutually

exclusive. A greatest strength could be our greatest

weakness. Example: We operate with energy and

passion. There are times when active energy and

passion is appropriate and there are times when

inactivity and quietness appropriate. Choose wisely.

17. Teams Identify and document weaknesses of a team or

system.

18. Vision Review your vision and ask how weaknesses get in

the way of the accomplishment of your mission and

vision.

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RECOGNIZING WEAKNESSES Reference Article Attached:

“How to Overcome a Weakness”, By C J Carter, http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Overcome-a-Weakness&id=656256

In the opening of the article, C J Carter states:

“All people like to view themselves in a positive light. No one likes to be considered a failure or a lesser human being. But everyone has weaknesses. Most of the time people tend to ignore their weakness and focus on showcasing their positive attributes. There is nothing wrong with showing your positive attributes but you can't ignore your weaknesses. When people ignore the things that they are bad at, it tends to come back on them later in life.

I agree. Do you?

Do we recognize our weaknesses, or can we be blind to certain weaknesses? Think about that and I’m sure you have the answer. In whatever case, what do we do about weakness? Here are choices we might make:

Ignore It. We do not even consider that how we are doing something involves a weakness. We just plow on through leaving a wake of damage thinking everything is fine, or not concerned about what has happened. And the cycle repeats.

Wrong Perception. We think we are doing right and truly do not know that we are causing problems.

Helpless. We know we are weak in an area, but have not figured out how to make a change to make improvements.

Action. We know we have weaknesses and take steps to improve ourselves.

Can we self-diagnose the weaknesses in ourselves? Maybe. But what is a better way to reveal a weakness and discover the full impact of that weakness: an accountability partner - Someone who knows us, someone we trust, someone who is familiar with what we are doing, someone who can critique us properly, and someone we can accept proper criticism from.

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THE FATAL FLAW Reference Blog Article Attached:

“The Fatal Flaw - The Most Essential Element for Bringing Characters to Life” By Dara Marks

http://www.writersstore.com/the-fatal-flaw-the-most-essential-element-for-bringing-characters-to-life

I remember “way back in high school literature” (and that is way back), we were taught about the “fatal flaw” in a character in a story. As defined by Dara Marks in the attached article,

“The FATAL FLAW is a struggle within a character to maintain a survival system

long after it has outlived its usefulness.

What that makes me think is that we can operate with a weakness, not recognize it, and not do anything about it, then eventually we are not going to survive in what we are doing because the way we are doing it is deficient and that way will outlive its usefulness. Thus, the weakness becomes fatal to what we are doing.

If that is possible, then we must address our weaknesses, our weaknesses, not others weaknesses.

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HARRISBURG BIZ LEADERS

A Venture of BARBUSH ENTERPRISES James Eugene Barbush

Professional Engineer, Speaker, & Writer

in Leadership Development

March 12-14, 2013

Baltimore Convention Center

53 Session No R2.21 March 14, 2013 10:00 am to 10:50 am