Self awareness and self esteem MBA HR PPT

SELF AWARENESS AND SELF

ESTEEM

PRESENTED BY :- BABASAB PATIL

4/10/2013 Babasabpatilfreepptmba.com

What is Self Awareness ?

• “Self-awareness” refers to the capacity to become the object of

one’s own attention.

• It occurs when an organism focuses not on the external

environment, but on the internal milieu;

• It becomes a reflective observer, processing self-information.

• The organism becomes aware that it is

awake and actually experiencing specific

mental events, emitting behaviors,

and possessing unique characteristics.


SELF AWARENESS • Self Awareness can be defined as the ability to perceive one’s own

existence, including one’s own traits, feelings and behaviors. It is a

personal understanding of the one’s own identity. It is the basis for

many other human traits, such as accountability and consciousness.

• Self Awareness is empowering because it can reveal where the

performance problems are and indicate what can be done to improve

performance


Cont…

• Self Awareness is the foundation for personal change.

Once an individual is aware of himself, one can better

manage one’s behavior and function effectively.

• Ability to assess one’s personality, behaviors & skills

accurately by

– Observing one’s own thoughts, behaviors, skills,

– Comparing observations to an external source (e.g., a

standard or another person)


Why become self aware?

• To improve performance.

• To develop intrapersonal skills

– To manage yourself by setting appropriate goals, choose

appropriate careers, manage stress

– To accept your tendencies of behaving, thinking & feeling

because 30% of personality is genetic

• To develop interpersonal skills

– Understand differences between you and others

– Understand why others react to you the way they do

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It is important to answer the question

“Who is a self aware person”?

A self aware person is one who:

• Is aware of one’s strength and limitations: one knows what he

can do well and what he is not good at.

• Has a clear idea of one’s priorities: one knows what is important

for him and does not waste his time going after things he doesn’t

believe in.

• Is aware of differences in attitudes, values and beliefs are the

primary causes of conflicts.


Cont….. • One is aware of his fears and anxieties and the defenses he usually

employs to protect his sanity.

• One has relatively stable and strong self image and is not unduly

perturbed by what others say about oneself.


Personal development through Self Awareness

• It helps managers identify gaps in their management skills, which

promotes

1. skill development. :It also helps managers find situations in

which they will be most effective,

2. assists with intuitive decision making

3. and aids stress management and

4. motivation of oneself and others


Skill development

• Improvement projects should normally begin with an assessment

of the gap between the current situation and desired future

situation. Having accurate sense of who you are helps you

decide what you should do to improve. Often, self-awareness

will reveal a skills gap that you want work on.


KNOWING YOUR STRENGTHS AND

WEAKNESS

• Self-awareness helps you exploit your strengths and cope with

your weakness. For instance, if you are someone who is good at

“seeing the big picture “ that surrounds decisions, but not as

good at focusing on the details, you might want to consult

colleagues and subordinates that are more detailed- oriented

when making major decisions.

• Co- operation between big- picture –oriented decisions makers

and detailed- oriented decision makers can produce high quality

decisions.


Developing intuitive decision making skills

• Leaders with well developed emotional self awareness are more

effective intuitive decision makers. In complex situations,

intuitive decision makers process large amounts of sometimes

unstructured and ambiguous data, and they choose a course of

action based on a “ gut feeling” or a “sense” of what’s best.

• This type of decision making is becoming more important for

managers as the rate of change and the levels of uncertainty and

complexity in their competitive environments increase.

• Managers who are highly emotionally self aware are better able

to read their “gut feeling” and use them to guide decisions


Stress Management

• Jobs that don’t suit your personality to give you more stress than

jobs that are more well-matched. This is not to say that you

should never take a job that conflicts with your personality.

However, be aware that you will need to work extra hard to

develop the skills for that job, and there are jobs that would be

less stressful for you.


Motivation

• Self awareness is empowering because it can reveal where the

performance problems are and indicate what can be done to

improve performance. In addition awareness of your psychological

needs can increase your motivation by helping you understand and

seek out the rewards that really desire such as a sense of

accomplishment, additional responsibility, an opportunity to help

others, or a flexible work schedule.


Assumptions of Self Awareness

There are certain basic assumptions about Self Awareness whose

understanding is essential.

1. It is a self responsibility.

2. It involves internalizing, i.e. perceiving self behavior to have certain

outcomes.

3. It is a continuous learning process. Therefore, constant reappraisal

and analysis is a must. Sometimes, it is not just learning; it is also

learning how to learn. Thus, learning becomes part and parcel of

one’s behavioral repertoire.


WHAT IS SELF ESTEEM

• Self Esteem or Self Worth is defined as a person’s self image at an

emotional level circumventing reason and logic.

• View of oneself positively; approval of oneself, judging oneself

as significant, capable, worthy, believe that one has desirable

traits.


Cont…

• Self esteem is an aspect of Emotional Stability

Emotional Stability=Calm, Angry, anxious, worried,

guilt-ridden, nervous.


Nature of low Self Esteem

• People with low self esteem often rely on how they are doing in the

present to determine how they feel about themselves.

• They need positive external experiences to counteract the negative

feelings and thoughts that constantly plague them. Even then, the

good feeling can be temporary.



Nature Of Healthy Self Esteemed People

• People with healthy self esteem are able to assess oneself

accurately(know oneself) and still be able to accept and to value

oneself unconditionally. This means being able to realistically

acknowledge one’s strength and limitations ( which is part of

being human) and at the same time accepting oneself as worthy

and worthwhile without conditions or reservations.


Causes For Healthy Self Esteem

• The origins of self esteem can be traced back to one’s childhood, from

where it develops and plays a part in adult life.

• Childhood experiences that include being praised, being listened to,

being spoken to respectfully, getting attention and hugs, experiencing

success in sports or school and having trustworthy friends lead to

healthy self esteem.


Causes For low Self Esteem

• Childhood experiences that include being yelled at, or beaten,

being ignored, ridiculed or teased, being expected to be

“perfect” all the time, experiencing failures in sports or school

and being harshly criticized lead to low self esteem.

• People with low self esteem were often given messages that

failed experiences (losing a game, getting a poor grade, etc)

were failures of their whole self.


Facets of low self esteem

• Most of us have an image of what low esteem

looks like, but is not always so easy to

recognize. Here are three common faces that

low self esteem may wear:

1. Impostor

2. Rebel

3. Loser


Impostor

• The impostor: pretends to be happy and successful, but is really

terrified of failure. Lives with the constant fear that she or he will

“found out”. Needs continuous success to maintain the mask of

positive self esteem, which may lead to problems with perfectionism,

competition and burnout


The Rebel

• He acts against the opinions or good will of others- especially

people who are important or powerful- don’t matter.

• Lives with constant anger about not feeling “good enough”.

Continuously needs to prove that other’s judgment and

criticisms don’t hurt, which may lead to problems like blaming

others excessively, breaking rules and laws, or fighting

authority.


The loser

• He acts as helpless and unable to cope with the world and waits

for someone to come to the rescue. Uses self pity or

indifferences as a guard against fear of taking responsibility for

changing his or her life.

• Looks constantly to others for guidance which can lead to such

problems as lacking assertiveness skills, underachievement,

and excessive reliance on others in relationship.


Consequences of low self esteem

• It have a devasting consequences:

it can create anxiety, stress, loneliness and increased likelihood for

depression.

It can cause problems with friendships and relationships.

It can seriously impair academic and job performance.

It can lead to underachievement and increased vulnerability to drug

and alcohol abuse.


Measures To Overcome Low Self Esteem

There are three steps one can take to begin to

change one’s self esteem:

1. Rebut the inner critic:

2. Practice self nurturing

3. Get help from others


Step 1: Rebut the inner critic

The first important step in improving self esteem is to begin to

challenge the negative messages of the critical inner voice.

For eg: as a student one says;

• “ I failed the class test. I don’t understand anything in class. I’m such

an idiot. Who am I fooling ? I shouldn’t be taking this course. I’m

stupid and I don’t belong in college”.

• One needs to rebut the critic by saying; “ I did poorly on this one

test, but I’ve done O.K on all the assignments. There are some things

here that I don’t understand as well as I thought I did, but I can do

the material- I’ve done fine in other classes that were just as tough.


Step: 2 Practice Self Nurturing

• Since one’s self esteem is in part due to how others have

treated us in the past, the second step to more healthy self

esteem is to begin to treat oneself as a worthwhile person.

• Start to challenge past negative experiences or messages by

nurturing and caring for oneself in ways that show that one is

valuable, competent, deserving and lovable.


• There are several components to self nurturing:

• Practice self basic things.

• Plan fun & relaxing things for yourself

• Reward yourself for your accomplishments

• Remind yourself of your strengths & achievements.

• Forgive yourself when you don’t do all you’d hoped


Step 3: Get Help From Others

Getting help from others is often the most important step one

can take to improve his or her self esteem, but it can also be

the most difficult. People with low self esteem often don’t ask

for help because one feels one doesn’t deserve it.

But since low self esteem is often caused by how other people

treated you in the past, you may need the help of other people

in the present to challenge the critical message that come from

negative past experiences.


Cont..

Here are some ways to get help from others:

• Ask for support from friends

• Get help from teachers & other helpers.

• Talk to a therapists or counselor.



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