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Alice’s Adventures in Negotiation
LandThe Disney
World VersionFlorida Association of Women
LawyersOrlando, Florida
September 20, 2012
Alice’s reality is one where women author their own tales, work out their own problems, expect the extraordinary, and speak their minds.
Negotiation
recognize the opportunity to negotiate
Get your partner to come to your side of the line
• Yielding/Ingratiation• Shaming• Persuasive
argument• Promises of
future action• Threats of
future action• Physical force
Negotiation is Just a Conversation Leading to
Agreement
Build trust• Food, touch • Similarity• Small talk• Likeability
• Kind• Nurturing• Emotional• Weak• Indecisive• Patient• Tolerant• Afraid of conflict
Stereotype threat – anxiety when you believe you might confirm a negative stereotype about your
social group.
Gender Blow Back
• Ask for something you want & haven’t been able to get
• Tell partner who she is; why she keeps saying “no”
• Start conversation with offer
Male Bargaining Advantages
Feel bargaining advantageFeel entitled to more rewardsLess likely to back downUse more distributive tacticsFeel entitled to informationSeen as stronger speakers than
women Seek more powerIntimidate
Female Bargaining Advantages
• Take broad or 'collective' perspective
• Task interconnected and interdependent
• See the big picture • Formulate systematic plan• Share experiences • Look for mutual gain
Within six months of taking top-flight negotiation courses, less than 40% of the women were using the skills they learned, compared to 98% of their male counterparts. When asked why, they said they believed that many of the learned negotiation strategies, tactics and skills were inconsistent with who they believed they were as women, and
specifically in conflict with their identity and how they saw themselves.
We work 22% longer and 10%
faster for the same reward
What the heck are we thinking?????
They’ll notice what I’m doing and reward me
If they don’t reward me, I don’t deserve it
I’ll offend someone and be punished
I’d rather be happy than rich
It’s selfish to ask for myself
• Every negotiation is a mixed motive exchange
• What are the rules?• What interests is
each player serving?
• When there are no rules, you can make them up yourself
Prisoners’ Dilemma
• Two suspects • Insufficient evidence to convict• Offer
– 1 confesses & implicates partner – 1 freed; partner gets 10-year sentence
– Both confess and implicate the other, each receive 5-year sentence.
– both remain silent, 6-months in jail.
• Optimal choice for both cooperate for six-month jail sentence.
• The optimal choice for individual suspect is to rat out his partner and secure his own freedom.
• What is the rational decision?
• If both play red card (uncooperative) each member of pair earns 3 points.
• If both play black card (cooperative), each member of pair earns 4 points.
• If one plays red card & partner plays black, red card earns 5 & black earns 0 points.
• The choice is cooperate or betray. Begin play by holding your card of choice up to your chest.
• On 1, 2, 3, play the card of your choice & record your score.
Tit for Tat
Interest Based Negotiation: Expand pie of benefits to satisfy as many needs, desires, preferences and priorities as possible (“interests”).
The cost of a thing is the amount of life you have to trade for it now or in the future.
Create Value
Identify Interests
Anchor
Frame
Log Roll
Exercise Trade something that is low cost to you
but high value to her – five minutes each.
Bracketing & Hypothetical Offers
Offer Contingencies
Competitive Bargaining
Negotiating with Difficult People
Perceptions of PowerWhy Jerks Get Ahead
Are they difficult or simply uninformed
– Educate them about their true interests, consequences of their actions, our BATNA
– Help them understand what is in their best interest
– Determine whether they’ve misunderstood or ignored a crucial piece of information
Are they irrational or operating under hidden constraints– Institutional– Precedential– Promises to others
• Hidden stakeholders– Deadlines
Are they liars, cheats and thieves or do they have hidden interests?
• Personal (unrelated to you or deal); • Relational (related to you but not to deal, i.e., “face”); • Political, social, cultural
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