Compassionate Relationships and

Communities

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FIRST PRINCIPLES

Singular focus on helping people be their BEST SELVES

Takers, Givers, Matchers

Me first

May toe line of integrityReveal their true intentions

pretty quickly

Takers

Pragmatic trustGenuine and authentic

No expectationsEmotionally invested

Givers

Quid pro quoReciprocity based

Majority of relationships

Matchers

Givers operate from an Abundance Mindset

Open SourcePragmatic TrustCollaborationHumility

Compassion and Empathy"You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin

and walk around in it.

Atticus Finch

Ability to listen

Cross-cultural sensitivityTreat people in harmony with

their emotional mindset

Cultivate self-awarenessTravel

Creative projectsVolunteer work

Gratitude practice

Attributes Developing Compassion

BREAKOUT EXERCISE

- Who should you meet?- How do you find them?- Should you cold call/email?- What role does tech play?- How to approach people who

are more senior?

- Where should you meet?- What if youre shy/nervous?- What are good conversation

starters?- What are good questions to ask?- What if you dont click?

- How do you follow up?- Via what medium and frequency?- How do you organize your

relationships?- What could you share with your

contacts?

All groups: Where does compassion fit in? How to engineer serendipity?

- Why should you bring people together?- How should you do it?- Who should you invite?- How can you ensure thought diversity?- How do you grease conversations?

THE PREP MEETING

FOLLOW-UP COMMUNITY

THE PREP

How the heck do I meet people?

Leverage technologyWarm introsEvents that align with passions

What if I have nothing to offer

Everyone has perspectivePlay to your passionsBuild an online presence

Volunteering

#MAJOR

Self-selecting filter Gratitude -> HappinessDiversity with participantsDevelop empathy/compassion

MEETING

All begins with Listening

Talk as LITTLE as possibleResist temptation to fill blank spacesAsk Open-ended questions

Eye Contact is a Must

Put your phone far awayDirect eye contact builds trustCreates emotional connectionEyes reveal other non-linguistic cues

Ask Good Questions

When meeting someone new, try to find out what formative experience occurred in their lives before they

were seventeen. It is my belief that some important event in everyones youth has an influence on everything

that occurs afterwards. Byron Wien

Remember Names

#MAJOR

People love their kids and dogsNeed to authentically careUse memory tricksTalk notes in your CRM

Not only coffee or drinks

#MAJOR

WalksVolunteer workSweatworkingAvoid the prisoners dilemma

Dinner Table Test

#MAJORCuriosity enables breadth of ideasBreadth enables similar interestsAnd ability to challenge viewpointsAnd its just more fun

FOLLOW-UP

Whats a good follow-up?

Within 24 hours (for first meetings)Express gratitude, especially if seniorReference part of the conversationOffer up ways you can be helpfulOpen door for next interaction

Have a System

Use a spreadsheet or CRM toolThink about buckets and superpowersSet reminders for follow-ups

Share, share, share!

Nurture your network by sending articles, books and emails to people to show youre thinking about them.

Byron Wien

Be Creative

#MAJOR

Birthdays are a unique excuse to reach out and express gratitude

Any excuse for a handwritten note

#MAJOR

Embrace this dying mediumMore emotional capacityGet to the top of the queue

COMMUNITY

Power of IntroductionsMBI: Mutually Beneficial IntroAlways use an opt-inDeep listening = better connections Use your CRM bucketsConstantly think about your relationships

Organize Events

Dinners, book clubs, volunteeringCreate space for authentic sharingCurate attendees Serendipity explosions

Understand Tribes & Weak Ties

#MAJORNotice patterns in relationshipsInterconnectivity can be a signal

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