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Avoiding biggest mistakes
in
Divorce
Phone: 203-403-6659
Toll Free: 866-463-5144
Fax: 203-431-2189
E-mail: [email protected]
During the divorce process, people are already stressed. It is not uncommon
to make mistakes under such stress which can detrimental to one’s interest
in divorce case. This presentation highlights some of such mistakes and
ways to avoid them.
Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Ignoring alternatives to fighting in court
Team mediation, and collaborative law are excellent, lower cost, private alternatives to litigation.
In the trial, the arguments can be nasty and lead to washing dirty linen in the public.
Research your options
before you see a
divorce lawyer.
Take informed
decision.
Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Running straight to a divorce lawyer when you are
mad
It is difficult to be
rational when you are
emotional and angry.
In a state of seething
anger, you may agree
to pay a large retainer
to a divorce lawyer, in
order to get out of
marriage at any cost.
Take time to decide.
Wait to make major
decisions like how
you choose to divorce
until you are calm and
thinking clearly.
Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Hiring the divorce lawyer who tells you everything
you want to hear
They are tall claims, just to solicit you.
Beware of any lawyer who says
– You are right and your spouse is wrong.
– I can fix everything.– I can get you
everything you want.
Choose a lawyer who talks to you realistically about all your options.
He should say what law says, and what is reasonable to expect in your case.
He should not make statements and tall claims to impress you.
Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Using your lawyer as your mouthpiece
Talking through
lawyers.
It is expensive and
message often
miscommunicated or
misinterpreted
causing more trouble.
Before seeing a divorce lawyer , talk to your spouse and try to reach at agreement in the areas of less contention.
If you can’t talk to your spouse, try using a mediator – a common friend, relative or someone you both trust.
Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Demanding everything and offer nothing
Fear can cause people in divorce to demand things.
More spousal maintenance than reasonable
Sole custody of a child when both are fit parents.
Making unreasonable demands may make your divorce nastier and protracted.
State your needs in
terms of interests, not
demands.
Tell your spouse why
what you want is
important to you.
Be reasonable and
realistic.
Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Making a public spectacle of your spouse
Character assassination of your spouse in the court lowers dignity of both of you.
If you have children, they need both of you to take care of them and be as their role models.
Use divorce
mediation or
collaborative law
which are confidential
processes, to deal
with such issues.
Why it is a mistake? How to avoid them?
Stop seeing your therapist or pastor
Stress can be devastating
for your physical and
mental health.
Many divorcing spouses
report is they no longer
have a close adult to talk
to everyday and feels
lonely and insecure.
Find a therapist, pastor, or
support group to help get
you through.
A therapist, pastor, or
support group provide
channels to deal with those
stressful and lonely times.
Contact
Divorce Attorney
Giustino Capodilupo
100 Danbury Road, Suite 101
Ridgefield, CT 06877
Phone: 203-403-6659
Toll Free: 866-463-5144
Fax: 203-431-2189
