What You Learn When You Speak Out at BlogHer '13

What You Learn When You Speak Out

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What You Learn When You Speak Out

LORI DURON, Raising My Rainbow, @RaisingRainbowADRIA RICHARDS, But You’re a Girl, @adriarichards

MIR KAMIN, Woulda Coulda Shoulda, @wantnot

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DENISE TANTON, BlogHer, @dtanton

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Lori Duron

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Childhood Gender Nonconformity:

When children do not conform to traditional gender “norms” and/or identify with the opposite gender.

Typical behavior includes cross-dressing and preferring playmates of the opposite sex and the toys that are marketed to them.

Multiple studies have correlated childhood gender nonconformity with eventual gay, bisexual and/or transgender outcomes.

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Random House -- September 3

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RaisingMyRainbow.com

RaisingMyRainbow@gmail.com

/RaisingMyRainbow

@RaisingRainbow

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Adria Richards

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4 years old

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11 years old

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My journey of speaking out

• Took improv workshop• Surrounded myself with extroverts• Started blogging and creating videos

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“I really hope someone rapes you”

“I hope I can find Adria, kidnap her, put a torture bag over her head and shoot a .22 subsonic round right into her fucking skull.”

“Make her pay. Make her obey.”“Kill her.”

“You better watch out you Jewish piece of trash”

“She looks like a porchmonkey.”

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“For those not paying attention @adriarichards has been a diamond at the axis of developer community since she came here, and we stand by her.” @kevinmarks

“Let me be very clear: what is being done to @adriarichards is unacceptable. Period. End if discussion.” @katrynfinney

“It's been my firm belief that @adriarichards was pulled into social dynamics that she did not intend or deserve.”@dakami

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Inspiring others to speak out

• How Adria Richards Spoke For Me - Dani Alexis• Dear Fellow Geeks: WTF - Alexis Ohanian• Online Threats Against Women Aren’t Trivia - Soraya Chemaly• Death by 1000 cuts - Estelle Weyl• A White Boy's Observations of Sexism & Adria Fiasco - MarkCC

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Treyvon Martin1995 - 2012

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Thank you

Email:adria@butyoureagirl.lcom

Flickr Creative Commons photo credits: http://www.flickr.com/photos/peterjsieger/5544377398/

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Hi, I’m Mir. I write about my life.

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kids divorce parenting

remarriage

TV food dogs autism life

death custody travel weather friends

failures triumphs career shopping

joy

sorrow minutiae renovations

moving

books confessions rants whatever

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My Kids

Chickadee

Monkey

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“ ” I’m lost.

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“ ” I’m scared.

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“ ”This isn’t okay.

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The Final Straw

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Tampon Lemonade(a.k.a. Tamponapalooza)

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Tamponapalooza: Monday

• Step 1: Rent UPS box.

• Step 2: Share address.

• Step 3: Cross fingers.

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Tamponapalooza: Wednesday

• Step 1: Angry phone call from UPS Store.

• Step 2: Go to UPS Store.

• Step 3: Gape in amazement.

• Step 4: Cry.

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The Generosity of Strangers

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The Generosity of Strangers

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The Generosity of Strangers

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The Generosity of Strangers

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Final Tally

• Three full truckloads of toiletries.

• Estimated value between $10,000 - $12,000.

• Theft eliminated.

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Helpless = Hopeless

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Help = Hope