Lead the Change Leadership Academy: Start With Why?: Know Yourself, Grow Yourself, Be Yourself

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Session One, April 22, 2015

Start With Why: Know Yourself,

Grow Yourself, Be Yourself

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Between stimulus and response

there is a space.

In that space is our power to

choose our response.

In our response lies our growth

and our freedom.

- Viktor E. Frankl

I Believe that…

1. We all exert influence

2. We can make conscious choices

that will increase our influence

3. We can learn to make choices

more consciously and consistently

I Believe that…

Higher emotional and social

intelligence correlates with our

ability to have positive influence

in the world and…

These competencies

can be developed.

Think about someone

who’s made a difference

in your life…

SELF SOCIAL

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Emotional and Social Intelligence

SELF SOCIAL

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Emotional and Social Intelligence

• Accurate Self-awareness

• Owns personal power

• Self-Confident

• Self-deprecating humor

• Empathetic

• Service Ethic

• Organizational awareness

• Good Listener

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• Acts with Integrity/Intention

• Resilient and Optimistic

• Emotionally Balanced

• Adaptable

• Builds Trust

• Develops Others

• Communicates Effectively

• Collaborates

Repeated studies have

demonstrated

that meditation can

rewire how the brain

responds to stress. -Wired Magazine-www.wired.com/business/2013/06/meditation-mindfulness-silicon-valley/

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Attention training

helps you pay close,

nonjudgmental

attention

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What do an axe and a bowl of soup have to

do with each other?

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Research from Jonathan Haidt, author of The Righteous Mind:

Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion

suggests that…

Relationship

Trumps

Reason

Trust is the conduit

for influence. It’s the medium

through which ideas travel.

If they don’t trust you, your ideas are just

dead in the water. Having the best idea

is worth nothing if people don’t trust you.

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Actions

Wants

(Preferred

Reality)

Perception

of what isThe Gap

Relationship Among Perceptions, Wants, Actions

Based on The Triangle of Choice, in Leadership Simple by Steve and Jill Morris

KEY INSIGHT:

The gap between what

we perceive and what

we want creates

energy which can

lead to action.

Actions

Wants

(Preferred

Reality)

Perception

of what isThe Gap

Relationship Among Perceptions, Wants, Actions

Based on The Triangle of Choice, in Leadership Simple by Steve and Jill Morris

Actions

Wants

(Preferred

Reality)

Perception

of what isThe Gap

Relationship Among Perceptions, Wants, Actions

Based on The Triangle of Choice, in Leadership Simple by Steve and Jill Morris

Coaching = Awareness Action

Assess what is, then ask…

1.What do you want?

2. What have you tried?

3. What was the result?

4. What else can you do?

5. What WILL you do?

Modified from Steve and Jill Morris’ Leadership Simple

Coaching = Awareness Action

Assess what is, then ask…

1.What do you want?

2. What have you tried?

3. What was the result?

4. What else can you do?

5. What WILL you do?

Modified from Steve and Jill Morris’ Leadership Simple

Accountability

Resourcefulness

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Intentional Change Model

1. Identify Ideal Self

2. Identify Real Self

3. Create a Learning Agenda

4. Practice New Behaviors

5. Cultivate Resonant Relationships

Developed by Dr. Richard Boyatzis, Case Western Reserve University, et al.

For more information, see book, Becoming a Resonant Leader (Boyatzis, McKee,

Johnston, 2008) and articles on “Intentional Change Theory.”

Me at My Best 360

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“Choosing to act on ‘what matters’

is the choice to live a

passionate existence…

Acting on what matters is a stance

whereby we declare we are

accountable for the world around us

and are willing to pursue

what we define as important.

- Peter Block

Thank you!

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Peter Bromberg

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It’s Not About Being Nice

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It’s not what

they call you,

it’s what you

answer to.

-W.C. Fields

Happiness Research

“When you are experiencing positive

emotions like joy, contentment, and

love, you will see more possibilities

in your life.

These findings were among the first

that suggested positive emotions

broaden your sense of possibility and

open your mind up to more options.”

The Science of Positive Thinking: How Positive Thoughts Build Your Skills, Boost Your Health, and Improve Your Work

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-clear/positive-thinking_b_3512202.html

Leadership is…

The alignment of our energy and the

energies of others towards the

manifestation of a

mutually enriching future state.

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To build trust…

You must have congruence

between words and actions.

Where are attention goes, our energy goes

Where our energy goes, action follows

Where actions are taken, results follow

It all starts with Attention

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