The Big Leap_SEL

THE BIG LEAPMoving Up with My Child

October 5, 2013

2nd floor Conference Room

YOUR 5th/6th GraderWho are They and What Can They Do

General expectation for 5th and 6th graders

DOING

A GOOD JOB

“All learning has emotional base.”

Plato 2200 years

ago

Consider these worldwide statistics…

Impulsive boys are 3 to 6 times as likely to be violent as

adolescents and impulsive girls are 3 times more likely to get

pregnant in adolescence (Block, Marshmallow Test Result, 1995)

Low levels of empathy are associated with poor school achievement

(Norwicki and Duke, 1992)

Students who are anxious or depressed earn lower grades and more likely to

repeat a grade

(Kovick & Baatraens, 1994)

Children who are able to delay gratification are more popular, earn better grades, and had an average of 210 more on their

SAT’s

(Shoda, Mischel and Peake, 1990)

Social and Emotional Learning (SEL)

is the process through which we learn to:

recognize and manage emotionsmake good decisionscare about othersbehave ethically and responsibly

GOALS OF SEL

I am…Knowledgeable

I will…Responsible

I can..Capable

I care…Caring

SELF SOCIAL

AWARENESS

MANAGEMENT

SELF – AWARENESS

I am aware of what I am feeling.• Distinguish among intensity levels of their emotions.• Describe how they physically respond to emotion.• Recognize and label emotions and discuss how they

are linked to behavior.

I am aware of my traits, know what I do well, and know what areas I can work on.

• Describe the personal qualities they possess that make them successful members of their school community.

• Describe and prioritize personal skills and interests that they want to develop.

SELF – AWARENESS

I am aware of the supports I have around me.• Recognize qualities of positive role models.• Identify positive adults in various facets of their lives.• Identify peer, home, and school resources they can

access to help solve problems.

I am aware of and accept my responsibilities.• Choose to do school work/chores without being

reminded.• Define what it means to be responsible and can

identify things for which they are responsible.• Explain the benefits of being responsible.

SELF – MANAGEMENT I can manage my emotions in a way that is

constructive and appropriate.• Use self-monitoring strategies (self-talk) to regulate

emotions.• Show skills in handling pressure situations (e.g. calm down,

walk away, seek help or mediation).• Demonstrate an ability to present their own perspective (I-

messages).

I can act in an honest manner.• Show willingness to tell the truth in a difficult situation, while

honoring personal boundaries.• Identify reasons why honesty is a valued trait.• Analyze the outcomes of dishonesty.

SELF – MANAGEMENT I can make good decisions.• Describe the steps of a decision-making model.• Generate alternative solutions to problems and predict

possible outcomes.• Effectively participate in group decision-making processes.

I can set and achieve goals that will help me to be successful.

• Describe why participating in their education is important in helping them achieve personal goals.

• Describe the steps in setting and working toward goal achievement.

• Evaluate what they might have done differently to achieve greater success on a recent goal.

• Distinguish between long term and short term goals.

SOCIAL AWARENESSI care about the feelings and viewpoints of others.• Predict how their own behavior affects the emotions of

others.• Define the terms perspective/point of view.• Use listening skills to identify the feelings/perspectives of

others.

I care about others and do my part to make my community better.

• Describe what they learned about themselves in helping out others.

• Identify roles they have that contribute to their school, home, and neighboring community.

• Work together with peers to address a need.

SOCIAL AWARENESS

I care about and respect the individual differences of others.

• Identify contributions of various types of persons.• Recognize that people from different social backgrounds

share many things in common.• Define stereotyping, discrimination, and prejudice.

I care about how I perceive others and how they perceive me.

• Describe tone and how it is used to communicate to others.• Describe the impact of body language and facial expressions

in communication.• Develop awareness that social cues may be different among

various groups.

SOCIAL MANAGEMENTI will interact well with others.• Give and receive compliments in a genuine manner.• Use attentive listening skills to foster better communication.• Demonstrate good sportsmanship.• Demonstrate cooperative behaviors in a group (e.g. listen,

encourage, acknowledge opinions, compromise, reach consensus).

I will work on having constructive relationships.• Recognize the difference between positive and negative

relationships.• Understand the difference between safe and risky behaviors in

a relationship.• Identify a problem in a relationship and seek appropriate

assistance.

SOCIAL MANAGEMENTI will deal with interpersonal conflicts

constructively.• Show an understanding of conflict as a natural

part of life.• Describe causes and effects of conflicts.• Distinguish between destructive and

constructive ways of dealing with conflict.• Activate the steps of a conflict resolution

process (listen, express feelings, discuss solutions, make amends, etc.)

What can you do now

Motivating Your Child To Achieve

The desire to do things..

a driving force behind one’s growth & success.

A motivated child is likely to…• handle any task, no matter how difficult• begin tasks without having to be prodded• show serious effort & concentration• have a positive attitude toward learning & school

work• use coping strategies to get through rough times• stick with tasks until completion

A child who is NOT motivated is likely to…

• choose work that is easy• need lots of prodding to get started• put in minimal effort• show negative or apathetic attitude about learning &

school work• give up quickly when the going gets rough• leave many tasks unfinished

What Dampens Motivation?

Fear of failure Lack of understanding the school work Frustration with inconsistent performance Emotional problems Desire for attention– even negative

attention

School is boring I’m

done!

I don’t care

about math

I’m stupid ,

Why try?

What Fires Motivation?

Kids will be self-motivated to learn when they

feel loved and respectedfeel competent about something have some choice and control over

learning

simple ways to help your child to be

motivated

Set proper expectation

Talk kindly and honestly to your child about her interest and abilities.

Share your OPINION based on your OBSERVATION

Have an agreement

Set appropriate expectations by:

Communicate with your child

Re-evaluate as necessary

review your expectation with your child

make adjustments and make sure both you and your child agree about the expectations.

Help your child

Write the goals down.

Make the goals

specific

Make the goals

measurable

Show your child you think school is important

Maintaining a relationship with your

child’s teacher

Supporting the programs at your child’s

school.

Creating a suitable environment

Keeping up with your child’s assignments

Staying positive about school and schoolwork.

Support your child’s learning style

VISUAL LEARNER

learns best by seeing and watching

BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF VISUALLEARNERS

• is good in spelling• can easily

remember faces and names in print

• creates mental photos/good at imagining things

• Reads rapidly• Learns to spell words in

configurations rather than phonetically

• Is sensitive to colors/pictures• Learns well upon demonstrations• Likes to take notes and to make

lists to be read later

AUDITORY LEARNER

learns best by listening and talking.

BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF AN AUDITORY LEARNERS

• have a good understanding of meaning and order of words

• good at verbalizing concepts• good at telling stories

• has good memory for names but tends to forget faces

• tends to spell phonetically• notices easily sounds in his/her

environment• probably has ten excuses for

everything• subvocalizes internally or externally

for comprehension when reading

KINESTHETIC LEARNER

learns best by doing and feeling.

BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF A KINESTHETIC LEARNERS

• Is a mover• often writes everything –

over and over• Is better at recalling what is

done than what is heard or seen

• Is good at sports or other physical exercises

• likes to make something out of paper

• reads action-oriented books

Speak the language of encouragement

Praise:• Discusses results. “Great workon the science quiz! You got an

A!”• Uses opinion words such as“good,” “great,” “terrific,” and

“wonderful.” • Is typically given when the child

has performed as

Encouragement:

• Notices effort and progress. • Uses descriptive words.

• Can be given regardless of thechild’s performance.

Reinforce learning at home and in the Community

• Expand your child’s point of view• Get your child into the habit of reading.

Encourage your child to be resilient

Qualities Needed:• Strong belief that an adult will always be there

with love and support• Ability to solve their own problems• Ability to focus on their own strengths• Regard mistakes as something that happens to

everyone & something to learn from

What to Do:

• Empathize with your child• Provide your child with reasonable

choices• Change your approach when it clearly

doesn’t work• Support your child’s interests & talents