Bullying--A View From Both Sides

Bullying: A View from Bullying: A View from Both SidesBoth Sides

Bullying: A View from Bullying: A View from Both SidesBoth Sides

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Dr. Angeline StuckeyDr. Angeline Stuckey

In this Workshop

1. Define bullying, language of bulling

2. A perspective from both sides3. Research based definition4. Possible causes and

consequences5. Course of actions and solutions

What is Bullying?

Give your definition of bullying.

A View from both sides involves

Children who are bullying and those who are bullied and those who are

both at various time periods

Research Based Definition

Repeated and Continuous…• Physical violence and/or verbal abuse

(tease, gossip, social exclusion, obscene gestures) attacks resulting in physical pain and bruising, feelings of anger/rage, intimidation

(fear/anxiety) and worry.

Repeated/continuous aggressive attacks

Bullying; Behavior or Identity

The language of bullyingBeing bulliedShe is a bully

Acting like a bullyHe is being bullied

Involved with bullyingShe is a victim of bullying

How should we talk about bullying?

Causes for Both Sides…

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Write one thing that might cause each side of it.

Being BulliedStress and Fear and Anxiety

Headaches, stomach pains, irritability, and

a disinterest in toys and games, low energy,

day- dreaming, fearful, nervous in general

Stress-induced; divorce, separation, death,

developmental periods, unwanted changes

Doing the Bullying

Anger-hostile behaviorsPhysical fights, repeated arguments with adults, loss of temper, anger and resentment, placing blame on others

Stress-induced; divorce, separation, death,

developmental periods, unwanted changes

Does my child have this issue?

• Classroom• Gym• Lunchroom• Playground

• Home• YMCA• Church• Web

Multiple environments

Look and Listen For…

• Peer rejection (not even one friend)• Poor grades in favorite subjects• Aggressive social strategies (hollering,

hitting, throwing things, pushing, naming–calling, etc.)

• Symptoms of poor mental health [extreme stress (worry, negative anticipation), sadness, fear, anger, panic, day-dreaming, hostility, disagreeable

Write what you might do if suspect bullying

(group)

I might

Suspected of doing bullying (group)

I might

First…• Relax, think and brainstorm• Seek teacher’s advice and help• Write down a stepwise plan of

action• Take the actions planned • List outcomes wanted• Monitor results/revise plan• Expect good results (outcomes)

What Parents (teachers) Do?

Teach…• Social Skills (verbal skills)• Friendship Dynamics (friend/foe?)• Leadership Skills (helping strategies)• Social Values (school, home,

community)• Emotional Recognition/Regulation• Self Esteem and Self Worth

Social Skills (verbal habits)

Be seen and heard…Excuse me, Thank you, Please,

May I have that? Can I talk to you? Please don’t do that to me! I don’tlike that. Teach kids to be expressive

Friendship Dynamics (friend/foe?)

• Is kind to me• Cares about my feelings• Show an interest in my stuff• Compliments me when I am good• Stands close to me a lot• Like to play with me

Leadership Skills (helping verbal

techniques)

Can I help you do that? Can I try it too? May I show you how to do this.

Let them help a lot at home, so they will

be used to helping

Social Values (school, home,

community)

• Speak well of people in general• Difference in being/doing• Look for the good in others and

expect to be treated well by others

Emotional Recognition/Regulatio

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Fear, anger, sad, happy

Teach about feelings and how to manage feelings by thinking

things through before acting

Identity Development

ArtistSingerSwimmerDancerBikerSkaterBowler

ACT: List other titles1. Cookie cook helper

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Self Esteem/Worth1. Set achievement goals for maturity• Intellectual (book reading, grades)• Physical (sports participation)• Emotional/spiritual/social (show caring)

2. Identity Development (you are a good…)http://store.samhsa.gov/home, upload Self Esteem Building Guide (use with the kids) (http://store.samhsa.gov/shin/content//SMA-3715/SMA-3715.pdf)

References and Citations

• Bradshaw, C. P., et., (2007)• Espelage, D. & Swearer, S. M. (2003)• Pellegrini, A. D. & Long, J. D. (2002)• Stop Bullying. Govhttp://www.stopbullying.gov/index.html• National Mental Health Information

Center (upload self esteem building guide to use with the kids)

http://tinyurl.com/brddzq

Visit CounterAction.Org• http://www.counteraction.us • Contact Dr. Angeline Stuckey

– astuckey@counteraction.us

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