Stephen covey's 7 habits of highly effective people

Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Presented by:

30.8.98 1

2

Objectives

to share the lessons that one may learn from this book to generate an acute awareness of the character ethic to equip my friends with a concrete “road-map” for further self-

exploration of the book’s principles on a day to day basis

30.8.98

3

IntroductionThe author’s motivations

a personal experience concerning his son

expectancy theory:– how perceptions are formed– how they govern the way we see– & how the way we see governs the way we behave

in-depth study of success literature over the past 200 years

30.8.98

4

IntroductionThe Personality Ethic

dominant approach in the past 50 years social image consciousness two paths:

– human and public relations techniques– positive metal attitude approach

inspiring & valid maxims some clearly manipulative & even deceptive techniques

30.8.98

5

Introduction The Character Ethic

150 years pre World War I idea that there are basic principles of effective living enduring happiness and success by integrating these into our

basic characters foundational and catalytic

30.8.98

6

Introduction Primary & Secondary Greatness

the Personality Ethic is of secondary importance natural systems based on the law of harvest! the “7 habits” are basic - they are primary - representing the

internalization of correct principles upon which enduring happiness and success are based.

“what you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say”

- Emerson

30.8.98

7

ParadigmsThe way we see

commonly used to mean: a model, theory, perception, assumption - or frame of reference

a map - but the map is not the territory! Awareness of our own paradigms:

our paradigms, whether correct or incorrect, are the source of our attitudes and behaviors – and determine our relationships with others

30.8.98

8

ParadigmsParadigm Shift

Thomas Kuhn: The Structure of Scientific Revolutions instantaneous as well as gradual the learning curve is determined by one’s basic character! Being is Seeing. Seeing is Being.

30.8.98

9

PrinciplesThe Principle-Centered Paradigm

the Character Ethic is based on the fundamental idea that there are principles that govern human effectiveness

principles are natural laws that cannot be broken constitute the “objective territory” (not just the map) not esoteric, not mysterious, not “religious” self-evident and easily validated by any individual Deep within our conscience and common sense

30.8.98

10

PrinciplesGrowth and Change

a process: “a thousand mile journey begins with the first step” the Personality Ethic amounts to “borrowing strength” Inside-Out: private victories before public victories! the way we see the problem is the problem

30.8.98

11

HabitsAn Overview

Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits deeply rooted, often unconscious consistent and cohesive express our character

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not and act, but a habit.”

- Aristotle

30.8.98

12

HabitsDefinition

the intersection of:

takes all 3 for a habit! iterative spiral: seeing & being

30.8.98

what to doand why

wantto do

howto do

13

The 7 Habits The Maturity Continuum

30.8.98

Dependence

Interdependence

Independence

PublicVictory

3. Put firstthings first

4. Think Win-Win

1. Be Proactive

PrivateVictory

2. Begin with theend in mind

5. Seek first tounderstand...

6. Synergize

7.

Sh

arp

en

th

e s

aw

YOU

I

WE

14

The 7 HabitsEffectiveness

30.8.98

for all assets: physical, financial and human

15

Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEOverview

self-awareness– a unique human capability– the reason why we can break our habits

3 social/deterministic maps:– genetic determination– psychic determination– environmental determination

30.8.98

1. Be Proactive

PrivateVictory

Stimulus Response

16

Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEBetween Stimulus and Response

30.8.98

ResponseStimulusFreedom

toChoose

Self-Awareness

ImaginationConscience

IndependentWill

17

Habit 1-BE PROACTIVE“Proactivity” Defined

response-ability = the ability to subordinate a an impulse to a value 3 central values identified by Victor Frankl:

30.8.98

The CREATIVEThe EXPERIENTIAL

The ATTITUDINAL

18

Habit 1-BE PROACTIVECircle of Concern /Circle of Influence

Maintaining a proactive focus:

30.8.98

Circleof

Influence

Circleof

Influence

19

Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEDirect, Indirect and No Control

The problems we face are threefold:

30.8.98

involvingourbehavior

DirectControl

Possible

IndirectControl

Possible

involvingotherpeople’sbehavior

NoControl

Possibleour past& situationalrealities

solved byworking onour habits

solved bychanging ourmethods ofinfluence

= PrivateVictories(habits 1,2,3)

= PublicVictories(habits 4,5,6)

solved bychanging theway we see...

20

Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEAt the Heart of the Circle of Influence

30.8.98

Circleof

Influence

Our ability tomake

and keepcommitments& promises

21

Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Overview

the most fundamental application: visualization of your death & the graveside perspectives from family, friends, work colleagues and the community

underlying principle: all things are created twice - mental (1st creation) and physical (2nd creation)

default verses design personal leadership verses Management (what and how) imagination and conscience

30.8.98

PrivateVictory

2. Begin with theend in mind

22

Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Highest Leverage PC Work

whatever is at the center of our lives will be the source of our:

30.8.98

CENTER

1. SECURITY

2. GUIDANCE

3. POW

ER

4. WISDO

M

- SENSE OF WORTH- IDENTITY- EMOTIONAL ANCHORAGE

- SOURCE OF DIRECTION IN LIFE- INTERNAL FRAME OF REFERENCE- STANDARDS AND PRINCIPLES

- FACULTY TO ACT- STRENGTH & POTENCY TO ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING

- YOUR SENSE OF BALANCE- UNDERSTANDING THE WHOLE

23

Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Alternative Centers

spouse centeredness family centeredness money centeredness work centeredness possessions centeredness pleasure centeredness friend/enemy centeredness church centeredness self centeredness

30.8.98

24

Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND A Principle Center (1)

Security– principles do not change (only our understanding of them does)– principles do not react to anything– principles are larger than circumstances

Wisdom and Guidance– principles supply the correct maps

Personal Power– unrestricted by the attitudes, behaviors and actions of others

Only limitation: the natural consequences of the principles themselves - a universal law.

30.8.98

25

Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND A Principle Center (2)

The principle center puts all other centers into perspective

30.8.98

etc. self

PRINCIPLES

spouse family

money

work

possessionspleasure

friend/enemy

church

26

Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Using a Mission Statement

through conscience (of our own uniqueness) we detect our missions in life by working within our circle of influence

it will take time and should be reviewed regularly the process is as important as the product use your whole brain:

– using imagination to visualize and affirm (right brain activity)– capturing these images and plotting them (left: roles and goals)

30.8.98

AFFIRMATIONS

- personal- positive- present tense- emotional- visualized

27

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTOverview

The practical fulfillment of habits 1 and 2 (i.e.the 2nd creation) exercising independent will to become principle centered

through day-to-day effective self-management “Manage form the LEFT” (versus lead from the RIGHT) a measure of the value we place on ourselves! ensuring that your habits are a function of your values - not the

mood and/or circumstances of the moment management amounts to discipline in the area of life and time

management

30.8.98

3. Put firstthings first

PrivateVictory

28

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTFour Generations of Time Management

30.8.98

Notes andChecklists

1. recognitionof demands

+ Calendars and

AppointmentBooks

2. attempt tolook ahead

+ prioritization

3. Setting ofgoals and

short / long term planning

+ Calendars &Appointment

Books

Emergingeffectiveness

approach(relationships &

results)

Satisfactionis a function ofexpectations

& time!

currentefficiencyfocused

approach(things & time)

29

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant II Activities

30.8.98

important

not important

urgent not urgent

I.crisespressing problemsdeadline driven projects

II.prevention, PC activitiesrelationship buildingrecognizing opportunitiesplanning, recreation

III.interruptions (some calls)some mails & reportssome meetingspopular activities

IV.Trivia, busy worksome mailsome phone callstime wasters

require moreinitiative &proactivity!

30

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant I Results

30.8.98

important

urgent

I.

• stress• burnout• crisis management• always putting out fires• problem minded people• deadline driven producers

you areovercome by“waves” ofactivity!

31

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant III Results

30.8.98

notimportant

urgent

III.

• Short term focus• crises management• chameleon character reputation• feel victimized and out of control• inability to set goals and make plans• shallow or broken relationships

you are work-in terms ofother people’sexpectationsand priorities!

32

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTInto the Danger Zone

30.8.98

notimportant

Urgent / not urgent

III. & IV.

• total irresponsibility!• Fired from jobs• depend on others for basics

effective peoplestay out of here!

urgent or not,they aren’timportant!

33

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant II Results

30.8.98

important

Not urgent

II.

• vision, perspective• balance• discipline• control• few crises

The

of effectivepersonalmanagement!

Feedingopportunities& starvingproblems!

P/PC balance!

I.

34

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTLearn to Say NO

NB: you are always saying NO to something! Quadrants III and IV must make way for Quadrant II a center of correct principles and a focus on our personal

mission empowers us with the wisdom to take these yes/no decisions effectively

30.8.98

NO.

35

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTMoving to Quadrant II

A Quadrant II Organizer Tool will meet the following six criteria:

30.8.98

COHERENCE

BALANCE

QUADRANT II FOCUS

PEOPLE DIMENSION

FLEXIBILITY

PORTABILITY

36

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTBecoming a QII Self-Manager

Long-Term Organizing:

WEEKLY Organizing:

30.8.98

MissionStatement

Roles Goals

WeeklyRoles

WeeklyGoals

PlansSchedule

Delegate

37

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTDelegation: Increasing P & PC

we delegate to TIME (efficiency) or PEOPLE (effectiveness) temptation to delegate to time delegating to people empowers both parties

Producer:

Manager:

30.8.98

input output

input

output

38

Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTDelegation: Gofer verses Stewardship

stewardship focuses on RESULTS rather than METHODS 5 aspects must be mutually understood:

30.8.98

DESIRED RESULTS

GUIDELINES

RESOURCESACCOUNTABILITY

CONSEQUENCES

39

Public Victory Introduction

self-mastery precedes good relationships the emotional bank account paradigm - 6 major deposits:

– understand the individual– attend to little things– keep commitments– clarify expectations– show personal integrity– apologize sincerely

30.8.98

PublicVictory

4. Think Win-Win

5. Seek first tounderstand...

6. Synergize

40

Habit 4 - THINK WIN/WINOverview

not a technique - but a total philosophy of human interaction one of six paradigms of interaction:

– win / win (a better way)– win / lose (authoritarian approach)– lose / win (loser / peacemaker at all costs)– lose / lose (enemy centeredness)– win (other parties irrelevant)– win / win or no deal

30.8.98

PublicVictory

4. Think Win-Win

It depends...

41

Habit 4 - THINK WIN/WIN5 Dimensions

30.8.98

(1)win/win

character

(2)win/win

relationships

(3)win/win

agreements

IntegrityMaturityAbundance Mentality

w/wl/w

l/l w/l

cons

ider

atio

n ->

courage ---------->

the emotional bank account

Supporting systems (4) and processes (5)

Performance & Partnership(focus on results not methods)

42

Habit 5: Seek first to understand…Overview

within your circle influence four basic forms of communication: speak, read, write and listen character and communication a profound paradigm shift:

emotional bank account deposits understanding of the center when you listen, you learn

30.8.98

PublicVictory

5. Seek first tounderstand...

ignoring pretendingselectivelistening

attentivelistening

empathiclistening

43

Habit 5: Seek first to understand…4 Autobiographical Responses

30.8.98

1. we evaluateby either agreeing

or disagreeing2. we probefrom our ownframe of reference

4. we advisebased on ourown experiences

3. we interpretbased on our own

motives and behavior

communicationis logical/open

Generally:

asking questionsand give counsel

communicationis emotional

reverting toempathic listening

44

Habit 5: Seek first to understand…AND then to be understood

part of win/win!!

30.8.98

ethos pathos logos

1. 2. 3.

45

Habit 6: SYNERGIZEOverview

30.8.98

PublicVictory

6. Synergize

the whole is greater then the sum of the parts the relationship between the parts is significant

WE LIVE IN AN INTERDEPENDENT REALITY

46

Habit 6: SYNERGIZEDefinition

when faced with our greatest challenges… with:

we create NEW ALTERNATIVES - something that wasn’t there before!

the creativity can be terrifying as the outcome is unsure...

30.8.98

4 unique humanendowments

self-awarenessimaginationconscience

independent will

the truemotive of

WIN / WIN

skill ofempathiclistening

47

Habit 6: SYNERGIZELevels of Communication

30.8.98

Defensive (win/lose or lose/win)

Respectful (compromise)

Synergistic (win//win)

TRUST

COOPERATION

high

high

low

low

48

Habit 6: SYNERGIZEThe Middle Way

30.8.98

a higher way!

com

pro

mis

e

49

Habit 6: SYNERGIZEIntrapersonal and interpersonal

Synergy

30.8.98

L R

The essence of synergyis to value the differences!

• to move beyond our own• perceptual limitations

• to increase our own awareness

• to affirm others

50

Habit 6: SYNERGIZEThe Growth & Change Force Field

30.8.98

restraining forces

driving forces

current level of performance

4 5 6

51

Habit 7: Sharpen the SawOverview

PERSONAL PC !

30.8.98

7.

Sh

arp

en

th

e s

aw

Principles ofBalanced

Self-Renewal

Principles ofBalanced

Self-Renewal

Sometimes when I considerwhat tremendous consequencescome from little things…I am tempted to think…there are nolittle things.

BruceBarton

52

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw4 Dimensions of Renewal

30.8.98

PHYSICALExercise, Nutrition,Stress Management

SOCIAL /EMOTIONAL

Service, Empathy,Synergy, Intrinsic Security

SPIRITUALValue Clarification &

Commitment, Study &Meditation

MENTALReading, Visualizing,

Planning, Writing

53

Conclusion

30.8.98