Session 3 knowing me knowing you

Knowing Me

Knowing You

Motivational Gifts

Benefits:

• Helps you to better understand and accept who

you are

• Understanding motivational gifts bears fruit in

reducing conflict and basic misunderstanding of

others

• Gives insight into behaviors you might find

puzzling in others

For just as each of us has one body with many

members, and these members do not all have the

same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one

body, and each member belongs to all the others. We

have different gifts, according to the grace given to

each of us.

If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in

accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if

it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then

give encouragement; if it is giving, then give

generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show

mercy, do it cheerfully.

Romans 12 v 4-8

TOOLS

JOBS

MOTIVATIONS

Three

boxes of

gifts

• Skills/Talents, such as music, writing, languages, physical co-ordination, etc.

• Manifestational gifts – by the Holy Spirit e.g. prophecy, gift of knowledge, word of wisdom, etc.

The Tool Box

• Vocation and what you get to DO in life (father, artist, student, engineer, journalist, doctor, etc.)

• Ministry roles e.g. Pastor, Teacher, Prophet, Administrator, Helps, etc.

The Jobs Box

• This is the foundational box concerned with WHO YOU ARE

• Intrinsic – not something seen as a ‘calling’ or vocation

• Not learned but inherent

The Motivations Box

Server trunk

Strong Giver

branch

Teacher

branch

Exhorter branch

The Seven Motivations

1. Prophetic

2. Server

3. Teacher

4. Exhorter

5. Giver

6. Ruler

7. Mercy

• Bold and uncompromising

• Have strong opinions

• Truth is very important to them

• Very perceptive – easily pick up ‘what is really going on’

• Inspiring, wholehearted, direct and sincere

• Restless – interested in the next thing – pursue an idea NOW

• Have high personal standards

• Angered by injustice

• Tough and tender

Prophetic Motivation

• Notices and responds to

practical needs

• Enjoys serving and practical

problem solving

• Lots of energy and loves to apply it

• Reliable and loyal

• Goes the extra mile

• Has a good memory but is short term goal oriented

• Often gets over involved

• Hospitable

• Finds strong emotions hard to deal with

• Needs appreciation

Server Motivation

Teacher Motivation

• Loves learning and researching

• Great with facts, figures and details

• Has a large vocabulary and enjoys

sharing their knowledge when asked

• Has lots of respect for ‘experts’

• Can be objective and detached

• Struggles with emotions

• Can be insensitive to atmospheres

• Hates to be hurried – questions everything!

Exhorter Motivation • Good effective communicators

who enjoy company

• Natural encouragers and can

be very persuasive

• Look for a response when talking

to people

• Cheerful and positive, gregarious

and outgoing

• Practical and constructive

• Needs to remember to listen at times!

• Smooths over difficulties and is happy to make allowances and compromise

• Students of human nature and make able counselors

Giver Motivation

• Quick to volunteer help

• Look for opportunities to meet other people’s needs

• Have natural business wisdom and are good with finances

• Industrious and enjoys being busy

• Loves to surprise

• Spends themselves on others

• Struggles to let people come too close, as not good with boundaries

• A contagious advocate

Ruler Motivation • Instinctively organizes

and is able to be decisive

• Independent and critical

• Takes responsibility

seriously

• Enjoys managing a project

• Good leader - considerate and fair and values loyalty

• Fulfilled by accomplishing and is efficient

• Strongly competitive and does most things well

• Objective and detached

• Can appear unemotional but needs to be loved!

• Helpful to consult - their criticism will be perceptive

Mercy Motivation

• Tenderhearted and intuitive

• Understands the language of the heart

• Careful not to hurt other people’s feelings

• At ease amongst non threatening company

• Insincerity makes them uneasy

• Hates unfairness but dislikes confrontation

• Needs to define boundaries and needs their own space

• Dislikes pressure

• Likes things to be perfect

• Imaginative and creative

Scenario: Person trips and drops precious vase:

• Mercy – rushes to bring comfort and consolation

• Ruler – begins to organize the surroundings so it won’t

happen again

• Prophetic – says ‘I saw that coming’

• Server – immediately begins clearing up the mess (and

works out if the vase can be fixed)

• Giver – begins plotting how they can buy a replacement

• Exhorter – tries to be cheerful and make everyone

comfortable by cracking a joke

• Teacher – analyses the situation and lists a number of

previous experiences where something similar happened

(along with why it happened!)

Remember that the

Motivations are GIFTS!

Not an excuse for

behaving badly!

CHARACTER IS NOT THE

SAME AS NATURE!!

So it is important that

character qualities need to

be reached for and

developed.

The Character qualities which will be

important to the Prophetic are:

• Truthfulness (Deception)

• Obedience (Willfulness)

• Sincerity (hypocrisy)

• Virtue (impurity)

• Boldness (fearfulness)

• Forgiveness (rejection)

• Persuasiveness (contentiousness)

The Character qualities which will be

important to the Server are:

• Alertness (unawareness)

• Hospitality (loneliness)

• Generosity (stinginess)

• Joyfulness (self-pity)

• Flexibility (resistance)

• Availability (self centeredness)

• Endurance (giving up)

The Character qualities which will be

important to the Teacher are:

• Self-Control (self-indulgence)

• Reverence (disrespect)

• Diligence (laziness)

• Thoroughness (incompleteness)

• Dependability (inconsistency)

• Security (anxiety)

• Patience (impatience)

The Character qualities which will be

important to the Exhorter are:

• Wisdom (natural inclination)

• Discernment (judgment)

• Faith (presumption)

• Discretion (indiscretion)

• Love (selfishness)

• Creativity (under-achievement)

• Enthusiasm (apathy)

The Character qualities which will

be important to the Giver are:

• Resourcefulness (wastefulness)

• Thriftiness (extravagance)

• Contentment (covetousness)

• Punctuality (tardiness)

• Tolerance (prejudice)

• Cautiousness (rashness)

• Gratefulness (ungratefulness)

The Character qualities which will be

important to the Ruler are:

• Orderliness (disorganization)

• Initiative (unresponsiveness)

• Responsibility (unreliability)

• Humility (pride)

• Decisiveness (double-mindedness)

• Determination (faint-heartedness)

• Loyalty (unfaithfulness)

The Character qualities which will

be important to the Mercy are:

• Attentiveness (unconcern)

• Sensitivity (callousness)

• Fairness (partiality)

• Compassion (indifference)

• Gentleness (harshness)

• Deference (rudeness)

• Meekness (anger)