Resilience Parent Workshop

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Review

A little recap of our October session on Positive Psychology and Strengths.

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School Mission & PhilosophyInternational School Manila To build a vibrant learning community …maintain healthy balance in the

time devoted to work, rest and recreation

Acknowledge and celebrate our differences and encourage empathy, compassion…

…live our lives positively, joyfully, and ethically

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Positive Psychology Answers…

How can we cultivate the BEST within our students?

How can we help students thrive personally and academically?

How can we increase well-being (physical, mental, etc.)?

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Why Positivity? Negativity Bias - Brains are

hard wired for negative to help identify situations where there is danger

Evolutionary need of our ancestors

We are more motivated toward the bad than the good

Bad health has a larger impact on our happiness than good

Bad is more quickly learned than good

Growing research worldwide

Negative emotion is like Velcro to the brain. Positive is like Teflon.

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What Positive Psychology is not Happy-ology A tool to eliminate negative emotions Simple positive thinking

“Positive Psychology should be just as concerned with building strength as with repairing damage.”

Dr. Martin Seligman

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What Positive Psychology IS The study of what is RIGHT with people Goes beyond being simply “happy” The study of well-being What makes life worth living Supported by empirical research Flourishing is the goal!

Removing misery + having PERMA

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PERMAPositive EmotionEngagement (flow)RelationshipsMeaningAccomplishment

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STRENGTHS The backbone of Positive Psychology or

Pathway to PERMA Labels what’s RIGHT in our lives Measure behavior or capacities for

thinking, feeling, and behaving They identify who we are at our core Can use to build relationships Brings balance in focusing on both what

is right and what is wrong

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People who focus on their strengths are more than three times as likely to

report having an excellent quality of life compared to those who do not.

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ResilienceISM Parent WorkshopJanuary 29, 2014

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Brainstorm

What are some challenges/adversities we face in our adult lives?

What are some challenges/adversities our students face?

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What is resilience?

American Psychological Association defines as, “the ability to adapt well to adversity,

trauma, tragedy, threats, or even significant sources of stress” (2011)

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Factors that contribute to resilience include Close relationships with family/friends A positive view of yourself and confidence in your

strengths and abilities The ability to manage strong feelings and impulses Good problem-solving and communication skills Feeling in control Seeking help and resources Seeing yourself as resilient (rather than as a victim) Coping with stress in healthy ways Helping others Finding positive meaning in your life despite difficult or

traumatic events

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…I have a distinctly different view of school reform. The problem, I think, is not

only the schools but the students themselves. Here’s why: learning is

hard. True, learning is fun, exhilarating, and gratifying – but it is also often

daunting, exhausting, and sometimes discouraging.

Dr. Angela Duckworth, University of PennsylvaniaResearcher of GRIT!

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Resilience = Immune System“A kid’s social, emotional, spiritual and intellectual muscles can shrink if they are not exercised. Vaccines expose us to a dose of the disease so our bodies learn to overcome it; exercising strengthens weakened muscles after injury. Kids must be inoculated with a dose of hardship, delay, challenges and inconvenience to build up the strength to withstand them. Only then do they develop immunity.” Dr. Tim Elmore, Founder and President of Growing Leaders

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Comprehensive Soldier Fitness

Dr. Martin Seligman Resilience training

initiative designed to reduce and prevent adverse psychological consequences of combat

Resilience can be learned

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Research Academic achievement among school children is

predicted by perseverance and temperance strengths (Peterson & Park, 2009).

After controlling for IQ, strengths of perseverance, fairness, gratitude, honesty, hope, and perspective predicted GPA (Park & Peterson, 2008a).

Higher hope levels are related to greater scholastic and social competence and to creativity levels (Onwuegbuzie, 1999).

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ResearchIn a study of nearly 1200 kids who wore a beeping watch leading them to write about their thoughts, feelings, and actions 8 times per day, the most curious kids were compared with the bored kids. The curious were more optimistic, hopeful, confident, and had a higher sense of self-determination and self-efficacy believing they were in control of their actions and decisions, than the bored kids who felt like pawns with no control of their destiny (Hunter & Csikszentmihalyi, 2003).

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Self-Compassion Needed For Resilience Trumps self-esteem!! How can we grow if we can’t

acknowledge our weaknesses? Powerful way to achieve emotional well-being. Helps avoid destructive patterns of fear,

negativity, and isolation. Duke University Research - Students who could be

kind to themselves (as opposed to self-critical) were significantly less prone to homesickness and depression when transitioning to university.

Test yours!! : http://www.self-compassion.org/test-your-self-compassion-level.html

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Self-Compassion Needed For Resilience Self-Kindness

Warm and understanding to ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate

Common Humanity Recognizing that suffering and personal

inadequacy is part of the shared human experience

Mindfulness (April Parent Workshop!!!!) Willingness to observe our (negative) thoughts

and emotions with openness and clarity so that they are held in mindful awareness.

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Talent + Effort = SUCCESS

What can you be the best at? (TALENT)

What are you deeply passionate about? (EFFORT)

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Small Groups Today Rotate through 5 small groups:

1. Grit (Mr. Ayling & Mr. McQueen)2. Learned Optimism (Ms. Ball & Mr. St.

Laurent)3. Vulnerability (Ms. Hardison & Ms.

Vandermerwe)4. The Importance of Failure (Mr. Comer

& Ms. Unite)5. Melbourne News Interview: Raising

Kids That Thrive! (Mr. Birchenall)

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Take-a-WaysBrainstorm with your group, 3 take–a–ways from your 5 sessions this morning.

Is there anything in particular that resonated with your group?

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Resources http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/

https://sites.sas.upenn.edu/duckworth

http://www.self-compassion.org/

https://www.viame.org/www/

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Next Well-Being Parent Workshop

Tuesday, April 17:45-9:45

Little Theatre

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