Decoding The Self

Dr. Dave M. Jenkins, DMin, LMFT

Decoding The Self

The Self

• Who are you?

• What is your purpose?

• Where are you going?

The Self

There are five parts of the self.

Part I

FamilyInfluence

Family

• Source of culture and ethnicity

• Gender identification

• DNA

FAMILY INFLUENCE

Part II

Memories

Memories

• Past behaviors & experiences

• Emotions and thoughts

• Dreams and failures

MEMORIES

Part III

Values &

Beliefs

Values and Beliefs

• Where do they come from?

• Do they change?

• Are they dependent on situations?

VALUES & BELIEFS

Part IV

Character

Character• It’s how others see you

• The sum of your behavior

– Your behaviors become patterns

• Your patterns become habits

–Your habits become character

CHARACTER

Part V

Goals & Dreams

Dreams and Goals

• What good are goals?

• Why have them?

• They’re motivators!

GOALS & DREAMS

This is what we look like when we have gaps in our life or feel incomplete.

Values &

Beliefs

Goals & Dreams

Character

FamilyMemories

Where they overlapand intersect, you will find the Essenceof who you are, your SOUL.

We never stop growing.This is a complete self.Every part overlaps and informs the other.

Everyone has a unique self.

Two complete selves that overlap; also known as a marriage.

Conclusion

• Define the heck out of yourself.

• Focus on internal changes

• Avoid reacting from an emotional position

Conclusion

• Act from a position of character based on values and beliefs that are consistent with our goals and dreams without shame, guilt or regret

• Learn forgiveness; it releases you from the

past to pursue your dreams