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SuperconferenceFoundations and Advanced Game
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Why Do You Need This Stuff?
• The world ls very popuJoted. Cleaf1y pe<>ple cio find each olhcr wlthout con,scfoustyknowing a lot about how ft happena..
• Wa ing aroUild lor "illto" or "luck" to meetlh<l r1ghtgirl can lake a very king lime. and leavwels1htoouutany control overwho yoo win<f up wtt
• To·gt the specifiç-girlfriend you wanl. you have toleam10 be good wllh women lngone/81.
• Why Do You Need This Stuff? (continued)• lfyou were good with women in general,
you wouid know how to get the specifie girlyou wanL
• To keep the glrlfriend you want you cannot be needy,
• Knowing rt could be a long time before you meet another girlwhile she ean go out and meet anotherguy at any time guy often causes jealousy, nsecunty. and needni ess.
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Why Do Vou Need This Stuff? (continued)• The confidence and socialskills you build
leaming to be good wfth women will help you to m lntarn a better relationship andmake you a better role modal for your klds
• You may not even know whatklnd of woman you really want untilyou've had sorne experience dafing
• The confidence and socialsklfls you bulld leam1ng to be good wf'lh women will help you ln ali areas of your life.
•• Why Do Vou Need This Stuff?
(continued)• Seing a !allure with womenls belng a failure
at one of your core purposes and can leave a dark cloudhangnl g over ail of your olher accomplishmenls.
• Seni g good with women ls fun.• Seing bad with women sucKs.• Secome good wh women.
••Who Was 1 Then?
• 1 had my first glrtfriend at 19.• 1 met her at the end of hlgh schoot and moved her
to college wt!h me• \Nhlle o!her kids were hanglng out
andmaking mends,1 waslsolated in a hote with my grllfrlend.
• tn second year she dumped me for the guy who worl<ed atlhe Pita Pit.
•Who Was 1 Then? (continued)
•For seme reason,this !OII!IIY deflated me and nearly caused me to flunk my second year of college.
• This made my goalof graduate schoola lot more difflcull.maklng me more aepressed, and so on and so forth.
••Who Was 1 Then? (continued)
• 1 sat around depressed for around si)C months. lt probably took another year aller thalfor it to tully clear up.
• Eventually 1 realized thal1 was wayloo affected by it, and thalIlwas a sign of a larger shortcoming.
• Even if 1 stlll had my gir1friend,somethlng was clearly out of alignment in mv fife.
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Who Was 1 Then? (continued)
• Gelting my girlfriend bad< would probably have been the worst thing for me, because it wou!d havelust put a band-ald over a larger problem.
• 1 set out to get everything 1 thought1 wante<l:money, house, car. clothes, furniture. entertalnment unigym, and any other superlicialthing you could think of.
• SecreUy,1 built ali oftnis up hopni g thal awoman would notice il
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Who Was 1 Then? (continued)
• lt didn't wor11.•Even when the odd girl would llke
me,l'd blow it by bringing up thal1 had these things.
• They could sense the pla.oe of neediness lhat 1 was comlng from.
••What Did 1 Do About lt?
• 1 made ,a flrm cSecisfon that 1was go{ng to get IJljs areo.ormy fife bsndled.
• The firrn commitment wa.s c::rvcial,• 'vVI!hout the firm commltment l'd have quiL• 1didnl'Ully undèrsland the Ml ""'""'thalY"<J càutd
bl)(()rne 0011· with woonen(1nover magined 1 CO<Jid do what ldonow), but ngured 11\llilf 1appmached enough women lhatl'dgetbl1 tnOfft c»lfidence and ENentua.Uy have sorne svccess.
••What Did 1 Do About lt? (continued)
• 1 read every book 1 could find, and round themunsatlsfy ng.
• For a year, 1 approach -d five women and day and chatted with them.
• Thsi built-a bàsîc set or social skills.• Mer around a year 1 had my first sucœss,
although l'd olten lose the girls 1 met down the line by reverting bacl< to old needy behavior patterns.
1/Vhat Did 1 Do About lt? (continued)
• 11 was rough a!the lime, bulni,.,._...iiOePleamlllg
a wsy this wagoodbeca:sse r,
• For four years{201>2 2000) l travethe wOrld. workod on my·lk!llt, melanyane Wl'h e_ffld of sii)Q, srudled and testedenyttW g m. .wuromo1fJIY usefûl,wrote thou:sancts ot-articlesand ml'! workst!Qps &\lery weekend.
• Mopoot))e •P4t01kte wnv 1 went $0 hard et thts• Tbe ans over is a lei tban you'd expecc: lt .r:ea:ty
just wanted to ol'fer lhe best program1 oould,andltwas a lot oC tun bUIg IL
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Who Am 1 Now?
• 1 fdentify myself as a-guy vhlo ls always evolvlng. strlvîo_g to b& my absc.lut& bnsahdJlving ltre ta the rulrest.
• 1 am now wha.l t$eal!eda ·natui'Sr with women.whkhmeans that 1 requtre no •opener&" or "Unes" and 1 amusuatlyapprœched by womena few limes a day
• 1 am different froma naturat. lnthal1 ha-ve a COflseiousundorstandlng of lhc structure beh nd what l do•
.,.Who Am 1 Now? (continued)
• 1 hava now run more hveln-field dating programs than anyone in the world
• 1 can look at any guy,and see What he's doing righ\ or wrong wijhln seconds.
• 1 prlde myself not onmy ownresults,Which are as good as anyone's, but on my ability to inspire transfolllla!ion in others
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How Most Guys Are
• Hasasœrclly mentalty, and thlnks that the one girl he llkes is!he only oné he could ever have a realconnection with.
• Place women on a pedestal.• Biernes hls lack of success wlth women
onnot havlog monay or looks.• Weak sense of reality and fears rejectlon.• Makes excuse.s for his natureldesires..
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How Most Guys Are (continued)
• Attaches too much meaning to his Interactionswith girls
• Trtes to loglcally persuade women into l king him and has oo !dea how to get an emotional responS'e.
• Tries to lmpress and please people.• Radiales neediness and tnsecur1ty.• Sells hîmself short and makes himself
tao available•
••How Most Guys Are (continued)
• Not willing to walk away from people who treal him badly,
• Belleves that it is respectful and chivalrous to asl<permission from women nstead of taklng the lead
• ls boring and generic and tries to fit in.• Doesn't understand lemale psychology or
what attracts them.• Often finds himself 1n !he' friendship zone."
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Shlft ln Thinkin g :Men Don't NeedMoney Or Looks• Belleve lt or not. monay and looks are
"logical entitres• Social condltfonni g dictates lhat these
lhfngs are attractive, which gfvessome of the guys who have them the CONFIDENCE to act attractlvely around women.
• This leads guys to wrongly deduce "Il mvst be his money or looks."
•Shift ln Thinking:Men Don't NeedMoney Or Looks (continued)• What a woman responds to are her
EMOTIONS.• To be attractive to women, they must
reelan emotionalresponse to you.• Thalcornes from confidence,humor, social
skills, domni ance,charfsma, belng different and unprediclable, etc...
•S h i ft ln T h ink i n g : You Can LearnTo Be Good With Women Just LikeAny Other Skill• If you can learn a sport or an instrument,
you can defintiely learn to be good wilh women.
• Approach and mteract wJth women constant!y.• Devote a short period of your !ife to going
out every nighl
Shlft ln Thihkin g :Vou Can LearnTo Be Good With Women Just LikeAny Other Skill (continued)• The wond ls your plckuplab.• Ali rejeetionls teedback.• Take nothing personally. The same
girlwho rejeeted you probabty would have llked you If you'd oonveyed your personahty more attra.etively.
Shift ln T h i n k i n g : Vou Can LearnTo Be Good With Women Just LikeAny Other Skill (continued)• Th nk long lerm and go after the
sklll:be proœss oriented not outcome orlented.
• Progressively desenstllze yourself to being around women and taking the lead.
• lrs just socializing. Sociallzing is 100%normal.
• Small chunk ail!eamings avery nighl
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•Shift ln Thinkin g : Women WhoHave Sex With You Are Not AliSluts• The best way to get the glri you want ls to have 6elC
with her as &00(1 a.s possible.• \o\tomen war11 a man wbo knows wl\al ha wants, a W
how toget iL• She usually won't help you to do tllis. She
wants you to figure it oot ftwyourself• Somelimes guys willwait to bave sax: wlth
the.QlM they reallyiké bet:al.tse ltle:y ft;el like if they h.ave sex loo qulc:l<Jy thalilwitt wtock tho fuMo<*lionShip,
•Shift l n T h i n k i n g : Women Who Have Sex With You Are Not Ali Sluts (continued)• They,might befieve that ;dter a ·onenlght stand* U'le
glw111 low !hem off• ln fact, He girl blows youoff it's probably beeause 01
JOli, nol t>ec.luso yeu hadsel<.• To get your dream glrt, fntematlze ali tlleprocesses
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meetino _ women from star1 to finis
50 tnat whenimeelthe gU1 you wantlt's Of\ 1orâ autopllol
• Nwoys uust U..proœssllia you've built. \M1en you meet yovr dream gh11tealhet exacuv as you have ali the ether-girl$ who you've beên suocmsful with.. Yoo lhilif lhis pmcess to mcct hèt.
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Nerd Thinking
• "1 can learn Ille magic lfnes lo gewl
omen, jump
out of the shadows, get one, and take her back to my nerd-lair."
• "Thisis too scary. 1 want Ille magic plU:• "l've never accompllshed anythingln my
ltie, 1 don' tllke myself, and yet 1 can't understand why l'm not good at this.•
•Cool Guy Thinking
• 1 will buÎid confidence and socialskills over a perlod ot tlme.
• 1 will be a naturally attractive guy.• 1 will become a bet!er persan for women to be
with,lnside and oul• 1 will commit to stepping out of my
comfort zone and getllng myself out there.
• 1don't vlaw this as work anyway. Ifs fun.
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How Do You Get Good WithWomen?• Commlt to gofng out x-nights per week.• Commft to startfng conversations wlth x-
number ofwomen.• Yeu feam how tc open conversations
with anyone.• You leam to keep the conversation going.
••How Do You Get Good With
Women {continued)• You leam to ask for a number,• Youlllam to worf< the phone.• Youleam to do a "day 2" (a date).• Youleam to bring a girl home.
•• How Do You Get Good WithWomen (continued)• You leam topllysically -escalate.• Ali Ille whlle you leam abou!your body language.her body language, confidence. llumor.charisma.and sèxual tansron.
• "VVlef1 you mrt Otilpld< 8 delault VIllY to stèrt conversations hookattention,create a vibe,get physicaloomfort.·ask for 8 ni.lmber. aod move toanothervenue.
• Thalway youhave no e.xc:use$ to slt thér& when you see a girl you wanl to meet
••About Clubs
• Clubs have the number of girls \hat youneed to practtœ
• Clubs have the number of girls \hat youneed ta hlt slate
• Clubs make daytime seem easy• Learn attitudes and styles of nteractions
of sodal people
About Clubs (continued)
• Learn t.o hold court• Leam to befJiend large group.s of people• leam to handle social pressure• Leam to out-alpha guys• Leam to handle funny logisUcal puzzles
If You Can't Do Clubs
• Sorne guy&t.an'tdo clubs bec.ause l,heyhavea lifestyle oc occupatiOn th$t makes ltloconvenJent ot impossible.
• If sa.yoo must find any social galhering where you can meetworœn ea:sïly.
• Th.at var1es from clty to city, but wherever youare go outand fineS a pl&oe where.meeting large numbefs of women is. reai5tlc so lhat you c;an practk:e.
Confidence
• Voice• Eye contact• Body language• Touch• Social skills• Not putling up with nonsense
••Female Psychology
• Social oondltlonnl g• Lack of accountabillty• Grils as choosers (sort of)• Change her moodnot her mind• Grils l veln the emotion of the moment
and backWards rationailze (we do too, but morein other areas)
• Congruence tests
•Female Psychology (continued)
• Secret Soclety• Girl eye code (so asto not feal slutty and
ratlty feelings)• Why grils are drawn to clubs suboonsciously• Clubs as a reval datlon venue and blow off
steam venue... On some levet, griis going there wantlng to meet a cool guy.
• Dancing as sexual exhibllionism.
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••Female Psychology (continued)
• Dancing as a prog1ammlng defenweiL• Peet gtoop;eakK,ssytprotec::tiv&ness, and wanting to
hove a Nn nlghwl ill>out geUing hoo
• Valldatloo• ThallfosJylè ollhe profaulonal hotUe• 8uy1ng temperature• Nancy Fiiday...My 5eoretGarden·sexual tanta$$&S
Female Psychology (continued)
• Gls who pretend to want you for validation and lake attraction
• Touchni g as the gdischargni g emotions (they do k to eachother), and togat guys emoUonal lo toollhem
• Grils like cats •one wrong paend they forget the las!hour"•• hlgh emotionalturnover rate, you can' be plssed If she hates you because you accepllhasl heloves you
Fetnale Psychology (continued)
• Sorne girls are screwed up Qust like sorne guys) because they leamed from their famîiY tllat fightingis a precursor tolove
• Vaul e matriX: they want men to tall in love wtth them, they dance for hours, coquette, style theJTlselves, raad Cosma strategy guides, hold out sex with boyftiends.make theirboyfriends jealous to generate emotions
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Congruence Test
• Sometimos people will try to force you into a submissive rote thalisn't really who you are.
• This canhappen ofien ln erwlronments wihere peopla are drunk or with gîrfs who are used to guys putting them on a pedestal.
Congruence Test (continued)
• Exemples or that couId be:o Whena guy says,"Show me how coof )'OU -are!"o Whea glyou just rnet says.'13\Jy me a drink.'o When someo(le who wouldn't reciproœte
says.·Go to the store and gelmesorne food.·o When•glyou fust met says.' ts thot a pickup
line?or '"You'r:e a Jetk:loI.Jihlen that bappens, answenng logicalfy means tt1a\
yw buylniD thalframe.
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Congruence Test (continued)
• t,.tead orrospondlng loglcaDy.your slrongœt responsesarao 1· ToM Wr &lnl nfybUI b8 vlslbly•moOonall)'
!Jected bywnM Chey'neto do,o 2... To aMwet al alias lfwt'llltsaid 'wi!S 100 f.atCitlt!ilde Of
your tNIII)I to PIOQilU,o s • 'to CUl tl\elr thread oft bV noe respoodi 80<1' as&ertlng a new
ICfJieCf COfliN:tSelion.a 4. To WOf itt IJio w.y ltl•ywtnt DIJI!mlk.lhom wa•to &To 111\S\Wf almo5t it thewayty want lM do aomelhlng
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Congruence Test (continued)
o6-To joklngly ea!lthemout for trytng to stepup.o 7 . To joke thot V<hat they said1• playingup to eartleJ
ObSG1Valions you made of them.c 8 •To joke tha1ttley"re too 5trol)9 for you tohandle
end thal they wth.a9 •To answer wlthsomethlngequaUy·randomand
&bSutd as lhe rolelhay're asscnlng.o 10 - T-oD.r'!Swarayptically a-nd mak.e them guess
whnt you mean.
•Congruence Test (continued)
c 11 .. To answer thelr questionordo what they ask, bul moJte them do someth ng first.
c 12- To joldngly lm/tale ttlem. c13•Togfve tllem a weirdioOk. o 1.4- To tgnorelhêm on cly.
• ..• end lastly...
••Congruence Test (continued)
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• ihls·IIWJ of ll'a'me conlrOI can be ont oC lhe most M\IMIIY mi11undcttstaqd · or ,fOCi•dyno. ll'e.amei*lg Nta Ill) CW I#Hid Gpllringtv oll'lo!Wiso it lmmodl; tlyQ)mes aO'OSS as obrlo)JQIJJ OWflXII'I'IPOOH11on
Elements of a Good Pickup
• Doo'lget &luck mswe yourhe&CII'nèmor'il:lng .a sttucrur&.• Go w1th1he flow.• Any sotid pickup has the foJiowing eJements!
D OpooO HookD TouchD VibeQ Owlllrt'
"0 "Ven"oe-changeDSe<
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Winging
• Acéomplishment lntro, or joke merge, or swap out
• Jokîng around w îth your friends andinside jokes
• Body language towards your wlng
•Winging (continued)
• Gelting your w1ng ln With a 2set "My frlendls bored"
• 2-set dynamics wlth 2 on 2 approaches• You and your friand toollng each other as a joke
to demonstrate value
Open
• Warm versus cold approaches• Worknl g Ille room versus sbcklng to one girl• No eye contact 1S necessary.•·vou
just eppeared"• Get anenbon (laPon slloulderIf she's not
faQng you)• Eslabbsh dom111ance Wllh your eye con andVOiœ
Open (continued)
• Keep talk>ng unlll they open up... "No way out•• Structure opportunltîes to help them to lalk• t f girls ask you questions don't letlhem
lake overandtootyou• If girls are seated then preferably e>ther stand
them up or slt dawn• Handltng a roughlanding Wllh
break>ng paang and humour
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Open (continued)
• Gewng eomfortable so you canwo11<• Engeglng tate corners (don'! go bad<Wards,but
engage Ulem qu>ekly)o Retnltratlng tost or interruptecf approaches• Oetermln ng the relationshlps wlthnl• Gettlng atone time wilh the giM
the group
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••Open (continued)
• Approaehing glr1s faclng the bar• Approaehlng glris on the move• Approaching gins ala table (ls a seat available?
ls purseon Üle seat?)• Approachlng girls alone Who wants ti>
flnd her mends• Approaehfng mlxed (guy/girl) groups
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Hook
• Stand out from ether guys as qulckly as possible.
• Add value to their nlghl• Gelthem reacting to you for your
own amusement• Cold reading• Teach them somethlng of interest• Playful cotd reads
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Hook (continued)
• future Adventures Projection (FAPs)• Roleplaying• Conspiracies• Busting them on thelr mannerlsms• Mlslnterpretation• Pushlpull
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Hook (continu.ed)
• Bastie band snapback effect• Disqualification• Pimp talk• Qualïlyfng and Cllallenglng• Silly games• lmîtating!hem or other people
••Touch
•Pinging• Teachlng somethlng physical in nature
(very seductive)•Movlng her around• Poking• Hlgh-fiving
••Touch (continued)
• Tlckling• Wrestling• Halr pulllng• Neck bltlng• Slow down speak ng
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Touch (continued)
• Get closer• Trianguler!lazing• Bacl< scratcllnl g• Smelling hatr• Klss ng
•••Vibing
• Be playful• Tell funny or interesting stortes• Teacll her tunny thlngs• Ask her quesnons and mismterpret her answers• Deep and wide rapport
••Vibing (continued)
• You're not a gaod kisser (for when you klss her and she intentionally hOids back).
• You're look llke my calwhen 1clpi
ils toenails (far
when you touch her and she tenses up).• Ina clothlng store,grab Iwo of the same
articles of clothing and go over to the mirror and show you•selves as a dar!<y looking duo.
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Vibing (continued)
• Make her want to find out more about you• Viblng versus glvlng advice or having a
set purpose• Essence of nerds• Building energy in the interaction• KllowinQ when to ppi eln and understandrng
hf1lrarchies
•Vibing (continued)
• You're from (whateve:r non-dassy partof town), aten't you?
• Vou and 1 would nolQi!t along, Yeu know why? We're too s.fmOar. Vou woutdn'ltal<.o my shi!, and 1wouldn1 lake your shlt.
• Hay, shoW's over here. Vou have ADO don't you?You're fike a littlekitlen inpraitie. Chase the buHerflY. ChaSe itl Cl'lase lU No wait.chase the teaO No walt.. A btnll CHASE !Tl
I!IW S00Al DmAMIÇS
••Qualification
• Halling a standard of whalyou'llrespond to so·she wants to impress
• Cunosity frame• CommonaliUes• Understandlng and demonstta!lng authority
lnher world• Teachlng her lhnl gs thaL make her
reelcloser to you
•Qualification (continued)
• Ooalificatlon andhow it makes you showlng lnterest OK• Psycbology behind qualiRcation• Qualffylng and then bacl<peddllng• Us>ng the emotlonally unexpla•ned
••Qualification (continued)
• Showlng her unique valueto you• Givlng your criteria and havlng her try to reach n• Misdirectlon• A good vibe is ll\lly Ille best andmost
naturaf qualifier
••Phone Number
•' Lefs hang out later. Get out your phone. Here's my number. Calinie so 1 have your number.•
• "You know what? Yeu're drunk aren't yeu? 1 llked you and wouldhave called yeu.but you're too drunK and you'll forget about me. Are yeu drunk right now? I f 1 calf yeu, will you remember rne?"
Phone Number (continued)
• "You are either one of the coolest people l've met1n Ille longest t1me....Orlike Just a totalweirdo.l'rn curious about.Y<>u now.•
• "For lhe.same reason that we'rahavfng a great üme talking right now,is wlly we bolh have togo. Wa bolh have !(fends lhat are waltlng for us. because we're social people. But now we haveto go. Geol ut your phone. Cali this number so 1hava your number •
Venue Changing
• Rule: OVERHYPE WHEREVER YQU'RE GOING
• Meet your friands• Meet new people ln the dub• Take her to dance
Venue Changing (continued)
• Take her to gela drink (wateris good)• See differant parts of the club• Checklng out a different venue• Go to alter party
Venue Changing (continued)
• Go to eat• Go Q&cto your house (glve
funlinterestlng reason)• Go bacto yow room (give
fun/inlèrestinglnonchalant reason)
• Gel on yourbed (giverunflnterest nglnonchalanVcommandlng reason)
Sex
• Slow escalation• Teasing by moving foiWard and pulling
away•Dominance• Playing hard to get
••Sex (continued)
• Wash rinse repeat• Not arguing with token resistance• StoppTng and joklng around to make it not a
big deal• Gofng for it whenit's righi
Phone
• WIJGny<ucali a gin yoo mlght fœlapprohooslve becsuse youdon't wa.m to tose the validationof bar lllc!ng you prevlously.
• Réalize that regardl"$$ of her reaction,lidoesn'ldévalldalelhot y<uâld a g<e<Jt approoch.
• AJsoreolt.e thot ohemay have llked you ln lhe moment but couldhave a milliOn reasons OGt ta see youagaln{bo)lfr'iand.tao Inconvenient, etc...)
••Phone (continued)
• The other reason youmight fee! apprehension ls because you can't readher body language or see what she's lhnl king llke youœn face·tofaœ
• Thagl oes away withpractice.• You never know which gins wlil caliback.
••Phone (continued)
• Use the numbers of gri ls who don't Jike you towork on your conversation skills.
• Take tlme out every once ln a while to cali ali your numbers.
• lt•s not a bad idea to keep your computer near by andhave a brtefle<:lger of each giand what you talked aboul
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Phone (continued)
• If yoo have troue on tho phone youcan use what youtalkod .about on yout lastcaUl.o.get yoor mouthmovlog,
• Somebmeslt's.not a bad klea la just caU and ct\ot vllthout suggostlng a mcet
• Through lrial-artd-enor, you will eventua11y get a senseror wheo 8 gltl l$ up tor8 SéCOnd meet.. and you'll knowwllen to s1.1ggest il.
••Day 2
• Br ng her somewnere you enjoy.• Oraw her fnto your wortd. Make ilcool.• A day 2 should be casual, andif you can do
sometblng fun thaldoesn'tlnvolve money thenail the be«er•
••Day 2 (continued)
• tt's OK if she blings her frlends.• lt's OK if you bring your frlends.• lt's a greatldea to bring her to your house,!
hen leave. and come back later.• Have a repeatable plan thalwor1<s lor you
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Personality
• Niel> guy. Too suppliceting• Macho guy;Too arrogant.• Both are com1ng from a place or reaction
and qveroompef\saijon• Good guy: A good mlx between the Iwo.
You have a strong sense or wllo you are.
lmplementing a Habit
• Reallze you're not eut from a different cloth.• You might not be thalsman, but other
people aran'tlhat smart elther.• V\11lat oneman can do. another man can do.• Don't wall ror a glto dump you.
Thatls reactive.• Ba proactive and create the habit before the
problem ocours.
lmplementing a Habit (contlnued)
• Come up with a plan (eg:go out 3 days a week)
•Make- a choice just to get out there, even If conditions aren'!ideal.
• JUST SHOW UP.
••lmplementing a Habit (continued)
• Progress feels dlrecllonfess at times.• Progress is l1ke a )-etuve.ltlakes a long
time to gelgolng, but once you get somewnere your progress goes off the charts.
• You must hava blind fah !hatif you keep woi!<.ing at it you Will get it.
••lmplementing a Habit (continued)
• 1- Gelan ldea of what you want.• 2- Formulate a plan of how olten
you need to show up ta get!!lere.• 3 - Accept lhalyour new activlty rs a
part of your Ille for the duration of the lime you've decided, and never decide basedon emotions if you're going to show up ornot. Just show up.
•
lmplementing a Habit (continued)
• 4 • Don't worry if you're gett ng results, just stick lo the plan with blind faith, and make your
criteria for sucœss just to show up.o 5 - Make lt a hobby, oo!(at the
detailscritîcally wilhout takni g adviœ dogmatlcalty,and lake thelniHatlve 10 shlft the locus of your trani ni g wllen your intuition tells you thalnmight help.
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