Problems in friendships

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Problems in Friendships

+Quiz

Name 2 of the 4 friendships we talked about in class. +2 (4)

Why are cliques bad? +2

What is one solution to a clique? +1 (4)

bring assimilation +1

Extra Credit: In order to have a good friend…. +2

+Journal

Have you ever been left out of a group? How did this feel? Have you left anyone out of your group? How did this feel?

+Clique

A small circle of friends, usually with similar backgrounds or tastes, who exclude people viewed as outsiders.

Why are cliques formed?

What are some problems with cliques?

Are their cliques in our school?

+Solution to Cliques

It’s okay to have groups of friends, it becomes a problem when we don’t include other people.

Have your own values, don’t base your values on the group you are with

Keep your social circles open and diverse.

Speak out. Stand up for yourself and your beliefs.

Have a mind of your own.

+The Office Gossip

+Gossip

“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”

-Eleanor Roosevelt

+Gossip

Casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.

Who in hear has every talked about someone behind their back? STAND UP

Who in here has every had someone talk about them behind their back?

+Solution to Gossip

Stand up for what is right. Don’t continue the sting of gossip. Be the one who stops it. Who cares if it’s true or not? Is it any of your business?

Find friends. Find a friend or two who will stick by you and who won’t listen to rumors.

Care for yourself. Do things that strengthen your confidence and positive feelings.

+Peer Pressure

Positive peer pressure Negative Peer Pressure

Harassment: persistently annoying others Manipulation: indirect, dishonest, way to control or

influence other people

+Solution to Peer Pressure

Have high self-esteem.

Know your true self.

Not everyone is doing it.

+Bullying

Can be verbal or non-verbal, physical or non-physical.

Can be direct (hitting, teasing or making threats).

Can be indirect (rumors, manipulation, isolation, and exclusion).

May be one person, or a group of people

+Cyber-Bullying

The use of internet and related technologies to harm other people.

Remember that everything said over the interent, texting, etc. is ALWAYS there. There is always a way to access what has been sent. Even if you delete, it can still be accessed!

+Roles

Victim The one being attacked or harassed

Bully The harasser or attacker

Bystander The watcher, doesn’t say stop, doesn’t say go. Doesn’t say

anything.

Ally The one to stand up and stop the harassment **Try to be the ally**

+Sometimes we may not know if we bully.

“Whoever said sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never harm me, was a total idiot! Unkind words can crush you.”

Sean Covey

Write a behavior that could hurt someone or make them feel bad such as calling someone an ethnic name, or tripping someone.

+Bullying: How to Handle it

Don’t give the bully a chance. As much as you can avoid the bully. Take a different route to avoid

him or her if possible. De-friend them on facebook, twitter, etc.

Stand tall and be brave When you’re scared of a person you’re probably not feeling your

bravest. Sometimes just acting brace is enough to stop a bully. Stand tall and you’ll send the message: “Don’t mess with me”.

Feel good about you Nobody’s perfect, but do what you can to look and feel your best.

Get a buddy (and be a buddy). Two is better than one when trying to avoid being bullied. Make a

plan to walk with a friend or two on the way to school or recess or lunch or wherever you think you might meet the bully. Offer to do the same if a friend is having bully trouble.

+If the Bully Says or Does Something

Ignore the bully. Try your best to ignore the bully treats. Pretend you don’t hear them and walk away

quickly to a place of safety.

Stand up for yourself. Pretend to feel really brave and confident. Tell the bully “No! stop it!” in a loud

voice. Then walk away or run if you have to. Students can also stand up for each other by telling the bully to stop teasing or scaring someone else, then walk away together.

Don’t bully back. Don’t hit, kick, or push back to deal with someone bullying you or your friends.

Fighting back just satisfies a bully and is dangerous too. You’re also likely to get in trouble.

Don’t show your feelings. Plan ahead. How can you stop yourself from getting angry or showing you’re upset?

Tell an adult If you are being bullied it is important to tell an adult. Find someone you trust and

go and tell them what is happening to you.

+Summary

Friendships can enhance our lives, but there is the risk of problems in friendships. Being a good friend requires us to work at our relationships.