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What Makes Us Happy at Work: The Formula for Bliss!!!..

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!  Understand how to be happy at work.

!  Optimism & pessimism as they relate happiness.

!  How thoughts and words effect our happiness.

!  Rules for creating passion at work.

!  Positive Psychology formula for happiness.

!  Fun, thought provoking, interactive & an opportunity.

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On a Scale from 1-10, How Happy are You Usually?

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Health & Optimism

!  The way we think changes our health

! Optimists have better health habits than pessimists

! Our immune system may work better when we are optimistic

!  Evidence suggests that optimists live longer than pessimists

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Age 85: 90% of most cheerful quartile alive; 34% of least cheerful quartile alive. Age 94: 54% of most cheerful quartile alive; 11% of least cheerful quartile alive

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Study on Learned Helplessness

! Animals were tested for hurdle-jump escape from the frustrating goal box. Inescapably shocked animals failed to learn to hurdle jump, whereas escapable or non-shocked animals learned the frustration escape response.

! Learned helpless is the giving upreaction

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The Three P’s of Pessimism by Martin Seligman

! Personalization ! Permanence ! Pervasiveness

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Pessimism

! Promotes depression ! Feels bad ! Is self-fulfilling ! Don’t face challenges ! Reduces activity ! Don’t persist in adversity

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Positive Psychology— Martin Seligman, Ph.D.

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! Problem: !  Is with one s thinking!

! Objective: !  Change thinking!

! Assumption: !  We can learn to think differently !  If we think differently, we will act differently

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Learned Optimism By Martin Seligman, Ph.D.

! Elements: !  Increased engagement !  Increased meaning !  Increased positive emotion

! Rules: !  Challenge negative thoughts !  Play to your strengths !  Count your blessings !  Seek meaning

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Learned Optimism

Optimism—reacting to setback from a presumption of personal power

!  See glass as half-full !  Expect good things !  Bad events are

temporary setbacks !  Isolated to particular

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What we discovered!

Optimistic people: More successful, more social, live longer (only lawyers do better when pessimistic) Resilient people: Self-enhancement, repressive coping style, hardiness, positive emotion and laughter Positive people: Perform better (doctors’ study) Cziksentmyhalyi – flow”

Happy People Tend to Be Optimists

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" They overstate the positive impact of positive events. For example:

" They know they can get themselves a second chance.

" Most of the time they find themselves asking a positive How? .

" Their main motto is "Life is not fair, but I m going to make the best of it and learn to be on the winning side."

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Where Does Happiness Come From?

•  Natural selection •  Individual

genetics •  Certain actions •  Certain attitudes

3 Components of Happiness

!  About 50% of individual happiness comes form a genetic set point.

!  About 10% of our happiness is due to our “circumstances”

!  The remaining 40% of happiness is derived from “intentional activity”

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The Pleasant Life

! Having as many pleasures as possible

! Learning the skills to amplify them

! Positive emotion buffers negative emotion

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Forgiveness

I’ve had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you re carrying a grudge, they re out dancing.

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Links/Resources

!  www.reflectivehappiness.com (Interventions)

!  www.psych.upenn.edu/seligman (Literature)

!  www.authentichappiness.org (Questionnaires)

!  seligman@psych.upenn.edu (Q&A)

!  http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/Default.aspx

!  http://www.grossnationalhappiness.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/Short-GNH-Index-edited.pdf

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