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Paralysing Power of Perfectionism
Matthew Hoelscher
matt@miamiexecutivecoach.com
SMILE!
If one person can learn to do something, anyone can learn to do it.
Perfectionism
Who is a Perfectionist?
Albert Ellis, PH.D.
"How to Control your Anxiety before it Controls You"
"The Myth of Self-Esteem"
MUSTerbation
"Since it's so awful to fail, that means that I absolutely must succeed and that I'm a thoroughly inadequate person if I do not!
"Because unfortunate things keep happening to me, they'll continually happen and make me miserable."
"Because I failed pretty miserably at this important project, that means that I'll always fail and never succeed at important things."
Prefrences Become Musts
Musts, Shoulds, Oughts, DemandsAbsolute AutonomyUnmitigated Love
Complete GratificationGuarantees
If one person can learn to do something, anyone can learn to do it.
Freedom
ACT
Awareness
Choice
Trust
STOP
Step Back
Think
Organize
Proceed
Universal Acceptance
Self
Others
Life
Self Esteem
Unconditional Self-Acceptance
Alfred Korzybski
"I am many of my feelings and actions, but not any
one of them."
Unconditional Other-Acceptance
Unconditional Life-Acceptance
Acceptance
1. Accept the unpleasantness of mistakes and failures
2. Accept the frustrations of other people stopping you
3. Accept the blocks to your desire that events put in your way
Relasping
1. Acknowledge your relapsing
2. Thoroughly accept yourself, your being, with your lapses
3. Look for the Irrational Beliefs (IBs) that led to the relapse
4. Dispute your IBs vigorously and persistently
If one person can learn to do something, anyone can learn to do it.
Tim Gallway: "Inner Game of Stress"
ACT
Awareness
Choice
Trust
Awareness
Choice
Trust
If one person can learn to do something, anyone can learn to do it.
Step Back
Think
Organize
Proceed
Step Back
Think
Organize
Proceed
Freedom
ACT
Awareness
Choice
Trust
STOP
Step Back
Think
Organize
Proceed
Universal Acceptance
Self
Others
Life
If one person can learn to do something, anyone can learn to do it.
Paralyzing Power of Perfectionism
Matthew Hoelscher
matt@miamiexecutivecoach.com
Title: Paralyzing Power of Perfectionism
Matthew (hole-sure) Hoelscher is the President of Miami Executive Coach. He is a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Matthew has twelve (12) years of sales and five (5) years of product marketing experience. He earned a Bachelor's Degree in Liberal Studies from Iowa State University. He graduated from the University of Miami's Proficient Coaching program. He has been a member of Toastmasters International for 5 years. He has been married for seven (7) years to a feisty woman from Argentina and has 4-year-old fraternal twin boys. He enjoys reading over 50 books a year, scuba diving, and photography above and below the water. After coaching his executive clients he found a pattern of perfectionism that was paralyzing them and keeping them from moving forward. Today will learn how to navigate around these pitfalls.Please help me welcome Matthew (hole-sure) Hoelscher....
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