Habit two habit 4

1. Habit Two-Begin with the End in Mind

a. How do the following items fit in terms of your life:

i. College

ii. Attitude towards life

iii. Try out for sports

iv. Types of friends

v. Gang activity

vi. Who will you date

vii. Sex before marriage

viii. Drink, smoke, drugs

ix. Values

x. Relationship with family

xi. What will you stand for

xii. Contributions to community

2. Habit Three-Put First Things First

a. Pick up a planner

b. Plan weekly

c. Adapt daily

d. Never let fears make your decisions

e. Winning means rising each time you fall

f. Be strong in difficult moments

g. Overcoming peer pressure

3. Habit Four-Think Win WIn

a. Win-Lose-the totem pole

b. Lose-win-the doormat

c. Lose-lose-the downward spiral-win at all costs or obsessed in negative way

d. Win-win-everyone can win

e. Watch competition and comparing

4. Habit Five-Seek First to Understand, then to be understood

a. The deepest need in humans is to be understood

b. 5 poor listening styles

i. Spacing out

ii. Pretend listening

iii. Selective listening

iv. Word listening

v. Self-centered listening

c. We reply in 3 ways

i. Judging

ii. Advising

iii. Probing

d. What we need to do

i. Genuine listening

ii. Stand in their shoes

iii. Practicing mirroring