Habit #4 Think Win-Win. Which Would You Choose? Based on outward appearances, you might miss the...

Habit #4Habit #4Think Win-WinThink Win-Win

Which Would You Choose?Which Would You Choose?

Which Would You Choose?Which Would You Choose?

Based on outward appearances, you might miss the fact that the inside is the same.

How many of us are consumed with outward appearances?

Win-LoseWin-Lose

• Is competitive • “I win, you lose!”

• Is comparative • “as long as I’m better than you…”

Win-LoseWin-Lose

Lose-WinLose-Win

• You lose, others win (you’re a doormat) • Appears that you are “the nice guy”• Lose-Win is okay for insignificant things

Examples: - Who sits in the front of the car- Who goes first- Which drawers you put your clothes in

Lose - WinLose - Win

Lose-LoseLose-Lose

• I lose, you lose• “If I’m going down, then you’re going down with me.”

CompromiseCompromise

• You both get most of what you want• Everyone gives up something

Win - WinWin - Win

• Everyone wins!• There is plenty of success to go around• A win-win attitude adds to relationship bank accounts

Competition Competition

• Competition is healthy when you compete against yourself, or when it challenges you to become your best.

Comparing Comparing

• Comparing is unhealthy • We are all on different developmental time tables• We all have our own strengths

-Your strengths may be different from your friend’s

Self-Image Survey Self-Image Survey

• Please fill out the top portion of the “Self-Image Survey”

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group A)(Group A)

Survey – Group ASurvey – Group A

• Please fill out the “Self-Image Survey” for the Group A pictures.

Survey – Group BSurvey – Group B

• Please fill out the “Self-Image Survey” for the Group B pictures afterafter viewing the following slides.

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group B)(Group B)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group B)(Group B)

Self Image Survey Pictures Self Image Survey Pictures (Group B)(Group B)

Survey – Group BSurvey – Group B

• Please fill out the “Self-Image Survey” for the Group B pictures.• Then answer the remaining questions.

Unhealthy Comparisons Unhealthy Comparisons (Women) (Women)

• Seventy-five percent (75%) of "normal" weight women think they are overweight

• The average dress size of American women is between 12 and 14

• Today’s fashion models weigh 23% less than the average female

•A young woman between the ages of 18-34 has a 7% chance of being as slim as a catwalk model and a 1% chance of being as thin as a supermodel.

http://www.johnriviello.com/bodyimage/dolls.html

Unhealthy Comparisons (Men) Unhealthy Comparisons (Men)

• Boys ages 9 to 14 who thought they were overweight were 65% more likely to think about or try smoking than their peers

• Boys who worked out every day in order to lose weight were twice as likely to experiment with tobacco.

Real or Photoshop?Real or Photoshop?

The Power of PhotoshopThe Power of Photoshop

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_vVUIYOmJM&sns=em

Real or Photoshop?Real or Photoshop?

Real or Airbrush? Real or Airbrush?

Nothing, except $1,525 worth of touch-ups, to: Clean up complexion, soften eye lines, soften smile line, add color to lips, trim chin, remove neck lines, soften line under ear lobe, add highlights to earrings, add blush to cheeks, clean up neck line, remove stray hair, remove hair strands on dress, adjust color and add hair on top of head, add dress on side to create better line, add dress on shoulder, clean up an smooth dress folds under arm and create one seam on image on right side.

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Barbie or Not?Barbie or Not?

Bad Photoshop Bad Photoshop

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Special Teen Report (USA Special Teen Report (USA WEEKEND)WEEKEND)

• Just 3 in 10 are very satisfied with their looks.

• Non-white adolescents tend to feel better about themselves physically than whites, something experts say reflects a different set of values. Asked how satisfied they are with their looks, almost 4 in 10 minority teens answer "very," compared with 3 in 10 whites.

• Only 15 percent like themselves "the way I am."

• Half of boys say they want to bulk or tone up, while half of girls want to lose weight.