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Discuss the Undiscussabull
• Empower Family
• Increase Profit
• Secure Legacy
• @elainefroese
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CANADA’S FARM WHISPERER
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Family
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Discuss the Undiscussabull
• Empower Family
• Increase Profit
• Secure Legacy
• @elainefroese
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TEXT 1-855-969-5300 Message is LETSTALK
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elainefroese.leadpages.co/letstalk
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use conflict as business risk
mgt. strategy
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•What do you need to begin ?
The Neutral ZONE William Bridges
• What needs to end ?
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WHAT IF ?
• REAL issues
• the PAIN of NOT KNOWING
• CHOICES
• CONFLICT COMPETENCY
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Empower family. Increase profit. Secure legacy.
CHOICE MAP …Learner
or judger. www.inquiryinstitute.com
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Response not Reaction Reconcile
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The Grand Adventure…Age
• 20…making it… independence
• 30…success, mastery exhausting!
• 40…taking charge security, recognition
• 50…quality of living simplify, competency
• 60…legacy, starting over future $ health
• 70…mentoring meaningful life
• 80…elderhood, blessing deal with death
• 90…hand it all over authority
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What do you want ?
Clarity, certainty, commitment to act
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Intent, Action, Effect
INTENT
EFFECT
ACTION
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Talk about tough issues…
• Discuss the undiscussabull
•Your “undiscussabulls…”
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Undiscussabulls • income streams • debt servicing • exit timelines • gifts to non-biz heirs • divorce fear • lack of conflict resolution
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Why don’t you want what I
want?
1. HEAD…Understand I get it !
2. HEART… feels good I like it !
3. GUT…trust it works I trust you!
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Do the Tough Things Right
• Fairness • Finances • Family Fights • Forgiveness • Fear of Failure • Fullfill roles • Fix your stress mess
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What does fairness look like to
you ?
• Sweat equity.
• Compensation
• Can others join the business ?
• VISION
• Does business serve the family ?
• Working harder
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Great meetings talking stick
cards,timelines email minutes
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Why this Book ?
RESPECT
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Emotions affect planning fear of failure,$,loss
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Factors affecting planning...
A. Fear of parents not letting go...
B. No time to plan, all work...
C. Unresolved conflict...
D. No trusted advisors
E. All of the above...
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Take Charge
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Come from curiosity
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ASK DEEPLY open, feelings,empathy
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Play with possibility Don't pre-judge outcomes
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Really Listen interests, feelings, passion
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Ponder and perk, not prod
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Cultivate Trust respect, fairness,commitment to act
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Respect Boundaries
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We age. We die. Come to terms with death.
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Extend the olive branch...
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Can’t talk about conflict…
you want few hassles… Discuss the undiscussabull
Fairness
Trust
Debt
Viability
Conflict styles
Accountability
Work styles
New equipment purchases
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Learner not Judger Mindset
What happened ?
What assumptions ?
Facts
What are they thinking
feeling & wanting?
What are my choices?
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10 Tools for Tough Issues 1. TAKE CHARGE
2. Come from curiosity
3. Ask deeply
4. Play with possibility
5. Really listen
6. Ponder and perk, not prod
7. Cultivate trust
8. Respect boundaries
9. We all end up in a box
10. Extend the olive branch
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TEXT 1-855-969-5300 Message is LETSTALK
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Listen. Avoid giving advice
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