Chapter 8: Peer Relationships

Chapter 8: Peer Relationships

� Main Idea: We will have many types of friends ☺� Friendships ~ friends not only enjoy

spending time together, they also care for, respect, trust, and show consideration for each other.� Casual Friendship ~ someone whom you share

interests but not deep emotional bonds. As you get to know a casual friend better, your relationship may develop into a close friendship.

Types of Peer Relationships

� Close Friendship ~ having strong emotional ties to each other. You feel comfortable sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with a close friend.

� Platonic Friendship ~ a friendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection, but the tow people are not considered a couple.

� Online Friendship ~ these can be rewarding because you can get to know people and cultures in other parts of the world; however, they can be very dangerous.

� Don’t share personal information� Don’t offer your phone number or street address� Never arrange a face-to-face meeting� Always tell a trusted adult if an online friendship suggests

that you do something that makes you feel uncomfortable

Building Strong Friendships

� Main Idea: Good friends offer loyalty, support, and motivation ☺� Traits of a positive friendship include:

� Empathy� Fairness� Shared Interests� Acceptance� Support� Loyalty

Recognizing Problems in Friendships

� Main Idea: It’s important that you know how to recognize problems in a friendship and how to resolve those problems ☺� Cliques ~ a small circle of friends, usually

with similar backgrounds or tastes, who exclude people viewed as outsiders.

Recognizing Problems in Friendships

� Managing Feelings of Envy or Jealousy:Ask yourself:� What is making me feel jealous?� Is my friend deliberately trying to make me feel this

way?� What can I do to manage or reduce these feelings?

How can I feel better about myself?� Are these feelings of jealousy more important than

our friendship?� What positive qualities make this person a good

friend?

Recognizing Problems in Friendships

� When Friendships ChangeHere are some reasons for ending a friendship:� A friend pressures you to do something that

is unsafe or goes against your values.� A friend says hurtful and insulting things to

you.� A friend constantly tries to get you to

change your beliefs or actions.

Peer Pressure

� Main Idea: Peers can influence how you think, feel, and act ☺� Positive vs. Negative

� Positive ~ encouraging you to do/try something new that doesn’t have a negative affect on your life

� Negative ~ encouraging you to do/try something that goes against your core values, beliefs, and or knowledge of right and wrong.

� Harassment ~ persistently annoying others, may include hurtful behaviors such as name calling, teasing, or bullying.

Peer Pressure

� Manipulation ~ an indirect, dishonest way to control or influence other people

Common Methods of Manipulation:� Making threats� Blackmail� Mocking or teasing� ‘Guilt Trips’� Bargaining� Flattery� Bribing

Dating Decisions

� Main Idea: Personal values & priorities will influence your dating decisions.

� One major benefit of dating:

� 1.)

Choosing Not to Date

� Some teens choose not to date for many reasons:� 1.)� 2.)� 3.)

� ** It is important to wait until you feel comfortable. Set limits!!

Abstinence

� Abstinence does not mean doing without intimacy or physical contact in a close special friendship.

� What is intimacy?

� It’s important not to confuse genuine affection & intimacy with infatuation.

Abstinence

� Self-control - a person’s ability to use responsibility to override emotions.� Set limits for expression affection� Communicate with your partner� Talk to a trusted adult� Seek low-pressure dating situations� Date someone who respects and shares

your values.

Considering the Consequences

� Effects on Physical Health� STIs� Unplanned pregnancy

� Effects on Mental/Emotional Health� Hurt because partners are not committed � Loss of self-respect because of sexual activity� Guilt from not being truthful (to parents)� Regret & anxiety if results in STI or pregnancy

� Effects on Social Health� reputation

Chapter 9: Resolving Conflicts and Preventing Violence

� Key Terms:� Conflict� Interpersonal Conflicts� Internal Conflicts� Escalate� Conflict Resolution� Tolerance� Negotiation

Terms, cont.

� Violence� Homicide� Assailant� Random violence� Aggravated assault� Abuse� Rape� Sexual assault

How Conflicts Build

� Some ways that conflicts build:� 1.)� 2.)� 3.)� 4.)� 5.)� 6.)

Recognizing Conflict

� Take a step back from the situation and ask a couple of questions:� 1.)� 2.)� 3.)

� **It is important to learn how to properly respond to conflict.

Conflict Resolution

� Three R’s:� 1.)� 2.)� 3.)

Violence in Society

� Homicide is the 2nd leading cause of death for persons 15 to 24 years of age

� In 1996, on average about 18 youth homicide victims per day in the United States

Causes of Violence

� 1.)� 2.)� 3.)� 4.)� 5.)

Types of Abuse

Physical Abuse*According to the AMA, between __________ and ____________ women in the U.S. are assaulted by their partners everyday.

Types of Abuse

� Sexual Abuse� About ____________ percent of all sexual

assaults or attacks are committed by people the victim knows.

Abuse in a dating relationship

� Date rape - occurs when one person in a dating relationship forces the other person to take part in sexual intercourse.

How to avoid Abuse

� Three R’s:� 1.)� 2.)� 3.)

Getting help for victims of Abuse

� Read textbook p. 240-241

Questions??