Chapter 2. Fact or Fiction? Emotional health is not related to physical health. Once a person adopts...
Preview:
Citation preview
- Slide 1
- Chapter 2
- Slide 2
- Fact or Fiction? Emotional health is not related to physical
health. Once a person adopts values, they remain firmly fixed for a
lifetime. It is best to reject illogical or unpleasant feelings.
The most emotionally healthy people do not need the help of
others-they stand alone on their own two feet. The primary problem
people have in making new relationships is the fear of being
rejected. The best way to solve a problem is to think up a solution
and to concentrate on making it work.
- Slide 3
- Emotional Health If you possess emotional health, you seek,
value and maintain good relationships with yourself, others, and
society. These type of relationships are key parts of total
wellness. This leads a person to take care of themselves
physically, eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest. These
type of people also develop healthy personal relationships.
Emotionally healthy people have also found ways to fit in and get
along with the larger society to which they belong.
- Slide 4
- Emotionally Unhealthy People Self destructive Often use and
abuse alcohol and drugs. Often overeat, or under eat, overwork or
work too little. They may take dangerous risks such as driving
while intoxicated or participating in other illegal activities.
These behaviors can lead to drug addictions, cancer, obesity, heart
disease, accidents, and injuries.
- Slide 5
- Questions.?? How can you know if you are emotionally healthy?
How can you improve your emotional health?
- Slide 6
- Self-Knowledge Self-knowledge is important for good mental
health. Your relationship with yourself must support you throughout
your lifetime. It also supports the relationships you have with
others and society. When developing a good relationship with
yourself, you need to think first about yourself! -Get to know YOU;
and be happy about who you are! -Be able to honestly answer that
you are honestly happy with the person you are and the way you feel
about yourself!
- Slide 7
- Self Confidence Self confidence is ATTRACTIVE!! The emotional
warmth, energy, and enthusiasm that seem to radiate from a
confident person set up a sort of chain reaction. Before long, the
people around you feel good too. WHO WOULDNT WANT SOMEONE TO MAKE
THEM FEEL THIS WAY, OR THAT YOU WERE THE ONE WHO MADE SOMEONE FEEL
THIS WAY?
- Slide 8
- Self Confidence and Conceited A person who is conceited is
someone who has a falsely high opinion of himself/herself for
traits that are imaginary or greatly exaggerated. Conceited is NOT
attractive!! This type of person constantly puts on a show of being
smart, tough, physically attractive, or rich. Other peoples
opinions are overly important to such a person, because the person
doesnt have secure sense of self. You can almost sense that this
person feels empty and insecure inside.
- Slide 9
- Self Confidence A person who is confident may be smart or
tough, rich, or attractive, or may not be. Regardless, this person
feels OK about his/her traits without over exaggeration. When you
are with confident people how do you feel? Do you feel more
confident or less confident? If you already feel like you have a
low self confidence, do these people make you want to improve your
confidence level? * Write this in your notebook!
- Slide 10
- Self Confidence & Self Knowledge Self confidence STARTS
with Self Knowledge This is NOT given at birth. Human beings are
usually only normally conscious of only a small part of themselves.
To discover more takes a lot of learning and experiences that
continue throughout your lifetime.
- Slide 11
- When does Self Knowledge start? This begins when you ask
yourself, Who am I? Some may answer with I am First/Last Name. You
may also add what gender you are, or an important aspect you have
of yourself, such as: I am Coach Wilt, and I love
teaching/coaching. You may also go on to add your outward traits,
such as your height, weight, age, occupation, and race. Beneath all
of these surface traits, who are YOU really??
- Slide 12
- Becoming acquainted with YOU You must learn about the THREE
parts of your private, internal world.your 1. Thoughts 2. Values 3.
Emotions (feelings) Once you have evaluated these parts of your
life, you can judge which parts serve you well and you wish to
change-now and later.
- Slide 13
- Thoughts This takes place in the outermost layer of the brain.
This is called the brains cortex. Thoughts are conscious; you are
always aware of them. Thoughts help you gather information about
yourself and your world, and to make sense of it. Your thoughts
also shape your actions. If you have destructive/negative thoughts,
you will act in this manor. If you think constructively, with
positive thoughts, you will act in a positive way.
- Slide 14
- Thoughts A person can also acquire a peace of mind, reduced
their stress level, and improve health. This is done simply through
learning to think positively. Debbie downers are NO fun!! Training
your mind to think positively is not always easy. It does require
some effort, discipline and practice! The rewards at the end of the
day are worth all of that work. Positive thoughts are believe to
set the stage for positive life experiences!
- Slide 15
- Values Values= your rules for behavior. More simplywhat you
view as right, or wrong. You first learn values from your family.
You learn statements such as: We work hard, We believe in
education, or We stick together. Values can change from time to
time, and can remain a lifelong task.
- Slide 16
- Values Teen years are a time when most struggle to balance the
values of their parents, and those they observe as peers. Some
teens end up rejecting their parents values for awhile. HOWEVER,
they end up returning to them as a proven rule for living. Your
values are a guide that point you in the direction of positive and
negative weights to certain behaviors. For example, you may value
sports and reading positively, but shopping and housework
negatively. The weights you assign, guide you in either positive or
negative thinking.
- Slide 17
- Values: Conscious & unconscious Sometimes you can state
them in words, but many times they guide your behavior without your
awareness. People who know themselves well are keenly aware of
their values. This keeps them aware, and helps them choose the
behavior without confusion. For example: A student who values
honesty and is conscious of this value will choose without
hesitation not to cheat on exams. Another student may have the same
value, but not be aware of them. WHY?
- Slide 18
- Values. You can also discover your values, by stating your
beliefs. You might say, I believe it is best to be honest. This
obviously means you value honesty 100%. For each value you have and
that you state, you should ask the following questions: 1. Would I
be willing to state this value to others? 2. How faithfully will I
stand by this value when it is challenged, or when acting according
to the value brings negative consequences? 3. Do I act consistently
and repeatedly in line with this value?
- Slide 19
- Values conflicting Sometimes you may have 2 conflicting values:
1. Value: having fun and enjoying life; Value: getting good grades,
and needing to study. What do you choose? 2. Should I tell my
friend a true but unpleasant fact or keep quiet to protect the
friends feelings? (value: friendship) Learning to live by your
values is an important part of emotional health.
- Slide 20
- Emotions Emotion is a feeling that occurs in response to an
event as experienced by an individual. Some emotions may be placed
from birth, such as affection, anger, and fear. Others, such as
envy, and prejudice, are learned. The terms emotions and feelings
are often used to mean the same thing. Sound experiences bring on
different emotions as well. For example: the door opening-are you
expecting someone? Could bring out a sense of fear or happiness
depending on the situation.
- Slide 21
- Emotions Another example: Failing to reach a goal may bring out
different emotions; impatience, anger, and irritation. The loss of
a loved one(the experience of grief) brings a series of emotions,
including both anger and sorrow.
- Slide 22
- Emotions We may have an emotion, but cant pinpoint the reason
for this emotion and the cause. Sometimes this is ignored because
it does not make sense to the person. All feelings/emotions are
acceptable and healthy. It is acceptable to feel anything. It may
not be acceptable to act on all feelings, but you deal with them
the best you can. Emotions build up, so its best to face whatever
it is you are feeling sooner than later.
- Slide 23
- Growing toward emotional health When you can do the following,
you have grown toward emotional health: 1. Recognize all kinds of
feelings in yourself. 2. Admit that you have all sorts of feelings.
3. Express all kinds of feelings in acceptable ways.
- Slide 24
- Expressing yourself This can be and should be done physically.
Speaking, writing, crying, shouting, laughing, or acting out the
emotions. If youre mad, calmly saying Im angry, may not express
your true feeling at the time. Someone who feels anger, but cannot
express it holds it inside and builds resentment. It is much
healthier to admit and to express anger in appropriate ways than to
suppress it.
- Slide 25
- Dealing with emotions It is NOT acceptable to harm another
human being because your angry/upset/emotional. Doing nothing at
all can be harmful to you, but you need to channel your emotions in
a safe way. Do not be afraid to confront someone if you are upset
about something!
- Slide 26
- Relating to Others It is important to have a support group
and/or a mentor that you can talk to you and seek help/advice from.
Examples: Parents, sibling, aunt/uncle, cousin, grandparent/s,
guardian, counselor, coach, best friend and/or their parent/s.
*MANY possible choices for a support group or a mentor.
- Slide 27
- Dealing with Conflicts Conflicts occur anywhere; home, school,
work, friendships, extracurricular activities, etc. It is important
to learn how to keep your cool and avoid conflicts and potential
violence. Trust and tolerance can be forever lost-unless someone
stops the conflict from continuing or happening.
- Slide 28
- Determining if its a conflict or an acceptable difference First
task is to decide if a true conflict exists. We all naturally
express different viewpoints and react differently to different
situations. Example: Baseball is the greatest sport ever played;
Wow, our team was terrible out there because our best player was
sick; You didnt come to my party, so why should I go to yours? Some
may or may not agree because we all have different interests. Some
people, however, waste energy by dwelling on past wrongdoing.
- Slide 29
- Strategies in resolving conflicts: With the right attitude,
people can break down the barriers and create more trust, which is
essential in resolving issues. Both attitudes need to be adjusted
and should try to meet in the middle to discuss the conflict at
hand: 1. Desire resolution; have a genuine desire to solve the
problem. 2. join in teamwork; be willing to work together toward
finding a solution. 3. strive for win-win; know that if each person
helps meet the others needs, everyones needs can be satisfied. 4.
honor the relationship; maintain/improve the
friendship/partnership/community. 5. Be flexible, but firm; be
flexible on how needs are met, but be firm that ones needs will be
met. 6. Be sincere 7. show courage 8. be open-minded.
- Slide 30
- Assertive, Not Aggressive, Communication You have to perform a
balancing act between getting what you want and meeting the needs
of other. MEETING IN THE MIDDLE! Sometimes the help of a mediator
helps solve a conflict. However, be careful how you go about this
because it could put more tension in the room, and make the other
person feel attacked. Make sure theres not sides taken.
- Slide 31
- Forming New Relationships Sometimes you just need to find new
friends. Some fear making new friends... Reaching out to other
people does not lead to rejection; you have to be willing at first
to face rejection and to handle it if it occurs. Understand that if
youre rejected it doesnt mean you lost the battle of finding new
friends. You just have to keep trying. If youre shy keep this in
mind: S Smile O Open posture F Forward lean T Touch E Eye contact N
Nod
- Slide 32
- Making Decisions and Solving Problems Name the problem and be
sure its the real problem. Describe it specifically and name the
problems parts. Brainstorm; name all the solutions you can think
of, no matter how crazy they may seem. Think about each solution
and list its advantages and disadvantages. How does it work with
your values? Does it honor the values of your parents, and others
whom you respect? Would it solve the problem? Would it affect both
you and others for better/worse? What are its possible
consequences? Choose a solution and ACT on it. Evaluate the
outcome: Is the problem truly solved? What else happened? Would
another solution work better?
- Slide 33
- Finding a Place in Society All societies have expectations for
their members, but not all societies are the same. People who
differ from the majority of society may b e ostracized. (rejection
and exclusion from society) Volunteer work is a good way to learn
about different careers. Each person must work out a relationship
with society that is rewarding. Finding suitable work is a major
task that supports emotional health. Efforts to discover your own
interests and talents are well spent.