Personality development bootcamp

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT QUICKCOURSE

Unconventional Advice to Improving One’s Personality

Why the Heck Are You Here?

Your teachers told me that you are required to

be here. =P

Why the Heck Are You Here?

This is a time-saver. Ideas hand suggestions here came either from books that many of you will not be

interested to read and thus miss out on great learnings OR are things I had to learn the hard way (sucks for me but

good for you)

Why the Heck Are You Here?

If you think you don’t need to improve your personality then you are the

perfect audience for this. If you actually want to improve your personality you are still the perfect audience for this.

WHAT IS IN STORE FOR YOU?Contemporary lessons based from

various topics such as Cognitive Psychology, Branding, Positivism, Life Coaching, and even Marketing. All of

these designed to help you make better sense first of yourself and then

your role in your environment.

Why the Heck Are You Here?

You’ve got nothing to lose and something to gain.

HOUSE RULES1. Respect is the gold standard. 2. My training orientation is based on adult-

learning thus I expect adult-like behavior. 3. There is a 15-minute break for every 2-hour

block.4. There is a 45 minute lunch break each day5. If you need to go to the john then just go6. Participation is highly encouraged.

DO YOU HAVE A PERSONALITY?

The BIGGER QUESTION is…WILL IT WORK FOR YOU OR AGAINST YOU?

OF COURSE YOU DO!

• The quality or condition of being a person.• The totality of qualities and traits, as of

character or behavior, that are peculiar to a specific person.

• The pattern of collective character, behavioral, temperamental, emotional, and mental traits of a person: Though their personalities differed, they got along as friends.

• Distinctive qualities of a person, especially those distinguishing personal characteristics that make one socially appealing:

• BEING• PECULIAR• PATTERN• COLLECTIVE• DISTINCTIVE

• SOCIALLY APPEALING

LET’S GO ROCK THE BOAT

WHAT WILL YOU DO IN THE NEXT 3 MONTHSHOW ABOUT IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHSWHAT WILL YOU BE DOING BY THE NEXT YEAR?

ARE YOU SURE?

WHAT IF…THINGS DON’T WORK OUT?

Typical Explanation for Behavior

Cognitive Explanation for Behavior

INDEPENDENCE

INTERDEPENDENCE

DEPENDENCE

It’s a thing Called Perception

What you See is What you Get

Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

Ponder These:

How much time do you spend JUDGING or ASSESSING others?

Do you spend as much time THINKING how the WORLD

judges or assesses you?

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”

– Charles Darwin

MEDIOCRITY = AVERAGE

a 5 out of 10. What happened to the

other 5?

MEDIOCRITY = VACUUM

Prolonged mediocrity = Unhappiness

SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT

“the quickest one way trip to disappointment”

SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT

I deserve it just because I feel so or I say so.

It must happen the way I want it to happen.

Behavior that Indicates a Sense of Entitlement

You get angry because of heavy traffic even though you know it’s rush hour.

Your curse at the heat when you know you live in a tropical country.

You get annoyed with reports and exams when you know it’s part of being a student.

But isn’t it normal to be annoyed or irritated?

ABSOLUTELY!

Whining is Fun. But utterly USELESS

Unless ...

You do Something

About It

Which Way Are you Looking?

Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern

Proactive vs ReactivePlan StoppersPractical Application 1

BECOME PROACTIVE

CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

CIRCLE OF CONCERN

If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem

Be the change that you want to see in

the world

REACTIVE THINKING

CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

PROACTIVE THINKING

Time To Bring Out the Microscope!

Instead of the usual fearful question “Can I do

it?” try this one…

“Who is going to stop me?”

TWO POSSIBLE PLAN STOPPERS

THE OUTSIDE WORLD

Well meaning friends, family, colleagues, peers

Damn you if you do, damn you if you don’t

TWO POSSIBLE PLAN STOPPERS

YOUR SELFLearned Helplessness: TYING DOWN THE ELEPHANT

The Lost Identity: THE EAGLE AND THE DUCKThe Gold Within: DAEMON

It’s not what you’re parents gave you but

what you do with what you’re given that matters

Where you are right now does not determine

where you go. It only tells where you start from.

PROACTIVE THINKING

Be Proactive

SEE

DO

GET

MEDIOCRE PERSON: This is the best that I can do given my resources (upbringing, family background, etc)EFFECTIVE PERSON: There’s always a way to get it done.

•See Alternatives instead of roadblocks•Focus on what you can influence•Expand, don’t limit your resources

A breakthrough to extraordinary results

A breakthrough to extraordinary results

Practical Application

Create a Resource Finder1.PEOPLE– Find a mentor– Find a muse

2.KNOWLEDGE– What do you know / what do you NEED to know

3.TECHNOLOGY– The Web is the Key

Is your vision 20/20?

Do you have a Vision?Seeing Yourself as a BrandBringing out your TelescopeBringing out your MirrorWriting a Contribution StatementPractical Application 2

Very few people have a specific image of what they want to

achieve. Most people’s sights are only toward the next run, the next increment of money

-Judith M. Bardwick, International Management Consultant

You: The Ultimate

Brand

TWO years ago, what were your top concerns. What were goals were you

trying to achieve, habits you wanted to strengthen or remove, skills you wanted to learn, or relationships to nurture or end.

List the top 5.

Do the same for your goals last year, this year, and the next year.

You have 5 minutes to complete this activity

Time To Bring Out the Mirror

Thinking Like a BrandUse the SWOT Analysis on yourself• What do you stand for? What are your top

three values?• What is easy for you but difficult for others?• What can you improve on?• What compliments do you get that you brush

aside?• What do others have that you don’t?

I DARE YOU TO SWOT YOURSELF!

PHYSICAL• It’s a visual

world out there

• Invest in the details

EMOTIONAL• Will you go

for the Cookie?

• Coffee, Egg, or Carrot

MENTAL• Got talent?• Texting is not

a hobby• Communicate

or Evaporate

SPIRITUAL• What are your non-negotiables?• What do you stand for?

Bringing out the Telescope

Team up with your M&M

Be inspired then aspire

If you try and failed, call it version 1.0

Define terms using YOUR own Dictionary

Be Selfish in order to become Selfless

Define terms using YOUR own Dictionary

Gasoline in a Diesel-run engine and vice-versa

What will Happen?

Why does it happen?

You cannot borrow someone else’s vision.

Why be the next whatever when you can be the BEST

YOU?

Channel your Inner Madonna: Aspire to

be a Hyphenate

CAREER CHOICES

SUPPORT SYSTEM

ADVOCACIES

Forge an Inner Vision

SEE

DO

GET

MEDIOCRE PERSON: I am a product of my environmentEFFECTIVE PERSON: I choose what influences me and I create my image and reality.

•Define the unique brand that is YOU – solid but flexible enough to adapt•Define practical outcomes – everywhere, every time.

Fearlessly Create your version 2.0Fearlessly Create your version 2.0

Practical Application

Create a Resource Finder1.Treat your self as Brand– Research – Find a muse

2.KNOWLEDGE– What do you know / what do you NEED to know

3.TECHNOLOGY– The Web is the Key

Time To Bring Out the Stop Watch!

List down the top 10 activities that receives your time.

Where do all these activities lead you?

Do you think the time you invest in these activities are worth it?

Or do you think it would be better to redirect some of your resources to

other activities?